I've been trying to recoup from the emotional funeral an all the stuff wrapped up in my ex, so I have not been here for a bit. But I have a question I have to throw out to all of you. Why do these people (the dumpers) insist on telling you they love you, and they miss you. I mean really, if you love and miss me so damn much why are we apart is my question. It's stupid. Why do they insist on saying continually that they just need a little time, even as they have no intention of coming back. I mean really. I've read these same damn words from so many people, on so many freakin websites that I'm beginning to believe that we are all wrong, and the real reason is that these people have caught some undiagnosed disease that infects them the moment they get into a good relationship. It's got to be a virus, man.

I guess your finding out it takes more than just love to make a relationship work, a lot more.

I've always known that. Ithink dumpers don't know. It's not as if they are going to find someone else and not have to do the stuff they are avoiding now. But still, they should just stop this I still love you BS.

When their actions don't match the words, it usually is BS!

Then why say that's what I'm wondering. Personally I think these people are just selfish and clueless. I just (unfortunately for the female) reemed my friend wife on this. They (read she) decided to separate from him three weeks ago. But she called me tonight to check on him. "How is he doing."

I was like, "how do do you think he is doing. The woman he pledged his life to left him. Is he supposed to be feeling fine? Should he be out partying. Stop asking me stupid fing questions. If you give a sh#^%t about him go home where you belong. You're married! Get over yourself and work it out."

I may have been projecting a bit, but my point is still valid. If you don't want to be with me, stop saying you love me, miss me, or asking how I'm doing. Common sense says that if I gave a damn about you in any way, I wouldn't be doing OK.

People say all kinds of things when they are shocked, or confused, hurt, or desperate.. Everything except what they really mean, as it takes a while for the heart to listen to the brain. The heart can fool the mouth anytime, and change the feelings a minute later.

Its up to you whether you believe them or not, or maybe we are as confused as they are, and just want to believe the BS their talking about.