Thank you to whoever reads this. I really need advice :(

I was seeing this guy for about 3 months. We weren't exclusive just together, as we called it. We hung out a lot and I knew he was into me. He would text me every day and ask when were going to hang out again. Well about a month ago, it ended on a bad note. He really hurt me and I can't even describe it. I thought everything was good and he was into me, but I guess he was just playing games with me.

I kind of ended it first, because I knew something was up. Towards the end, he would always ask when were going to hang out next and I would tell him whenever he's free and he would say oh OK this Friday works, and Friday would come and he would make an excuse up like, he really didn't care. My phone was dead on this weekend, and he e-mailed me after not talking to me for 2 days and asked how I was, and I told him "i was done playing games". I liked him so much, but deep down I needed to tell him because I felt like I was getting led on. His response was "ok i wasnt ready for a relationship anyways but it was fun gettn to know you cya around." The next day he emailed me again saying "if you ever need someone to talk to call me"...

Then I told him how I felt. I told him I really liked him and if he ever thought I wasn't into him I was, I just didn't want to be annoying and text him 24/7.

We kept emailing back and forth and he told me it "wasn't that easy for him to get over me since he still thought of me but we'll just have to let it go". Well I told him I wanted to talk about it in person, and he said "what do you want? you told me you have to get over me now you want to talk about it, you're the one that ended it first". And then I told him I was just as confused as him. So he finally agreed and said he would come over. I was thinking he would come over to work things out.

The first thing when he came over he says "so how would this relationship thing work out?" And then after he started telling me he was over me, which makes no sense to me because how do you go from talking about a relationship and then telling the person you're over them? And then a couple days before that he was just emailing me telling me it's not much easier to get over me... and on top of that he was drunk which really made me upset because that hurt me even more. I told him I wanted to start over and he told me when I get a phone back to call or text him and we can. And then he told me to call him if I ever need someone to talk to, which he was obviously just saying that to be nice. I told him regardless I still want to be friends just to be mature about the situation, and he said you we'll "keep in touch", and even if I meet a new guy he still wants to keep in touch... which I doubt will happen. He even asked me if I was mad because I looked kind of upset, and I told him "no im just disappointed because i thought we had something more."

I haven't contacted him for a month, even though he told me to call him or text him when I get a phone back. I can't get over him. My head is telling me to stop thinking about him and just move on, but my heart is telling me different. Its really pathetic how I try to keep holding on to something that's never coming back. :( I have been rejected before, but not this bad. I really regret telling him how I felt because I think that's what scared him away. He's only 19 and I'm 21. Why do guys just run away from a girl when they were interested in them in the first place? I don't even want to call him or anything to "start over" because I know he was just saying that we could, to be nice about it. Maybe he was scared about how I felt, but I felt comfortable enough to tell him since we had been hanging out for about 3 months. Sometimes I still cry out about it, thinking about what "could've been" . It feels like he just took my heart and stomped on it, and he doesn't even give a crap. I hope someday he realizes what he's missing out on. :mad:

I have a feeling he will contact me , and I don't even know if I should answer him, because he knows what he did to me. Any advice?

You were obviously more into him than he was to you .

The first 3 months of dating are about finding out about each other and seeing if you are compatible. Just because one person doesn't feel the same as the other doesn't mean either people are bad that's just the process.

Let it go and just be lucky that it ended before you became too attached.

I felt attatched to him... he made me feel like that. He led me on, and then dropped me like it was nothing :(

First off, all guys don't run away from something good.

However, you fail to realize that you and this guy had nothing to begin with. You wasn't in a relationship. The two of you were just hang out partners that enjoyed each other company and played games with one another.

So your best bet is to not to look back.

That happens , and you may do it to someone else down the track.

Doesn't make anyone bad it's just the process of finding someone you like I'm afraid.

Your still young so just enjoy dating and getting to know people and eventually Mr Right will come along .

Relationships are a 2 way street and both parties need to put in equally for it to be pleasant and work. You wouldn't want to be with someone who isn't fully committed right :)

He didn't led you on. You just didn't open your eyes and you made it out to be something it wasn't.

I hate for people to blame the other person instead of looking in the mirror and owning up to their actions.

Yeah I'm trying to do that, but its not working. I can't take my mind off it. Its easier said than done. Its been a month already of no contact. I really hope someday he regrets it because he lost a good girl.

He made it seem like it was something. He would always talk about "us" and how we were together. But you're right I guess I'm the fool for thinking we had something when we obviously didn't.

To be honest I don't think he cares about what he lost. You have to let go of this hurt instead of holding on it.

He is out living his life while your stuck in yours--over him. Our mind has a way of playing tricks on us. You focusing on him because he on your mind. When thoughts of him enter into your mind you need to immediately think of something else.

Get out and do something. Hang out with friends, take up a new hobbie or something. You was only hanging out with this guy for a short time but you let yourself get attached too fast.

With willpower you can overcome this.

Thank you. I really need to here it. I have been beating myself up over this thinking about what I had done wrong, what we could have had, and what could have been, when he obviously didn't care about me much in first place. It's sad that about 95% of the time is me still thinking about him. I told him how I felt and I think it scared him off too much because he didn't feel the same way. Im sure later down the road he will contact me, but I'm not certain. Do you think I should respond to him? A lot of people are telling me to ignore him because of what he did, but I want him to think I'm over it and not living in the past anymore. I have a problem for falling for guys too fast... I have definitely learned my lesson now.