My x and I were together for 3 years off and on. We had a rocky relationship from the very beginning. We also have a 2 1/2 year old daughter. When we break up it usually lasts for a month or two then one of us will give in and start calling or texting the other and then that's when we start seeing each other. On our off periods he does not see our daghter and we have no communication at all. Our latest episode has been going on for just about two months now. Last Friday I started missing him and so did our daughter. I text him and asked him if he would see her because she missed him. He text me back and said for me to stop texting him and that he didn't want anything to do with me and he didn't want to hear from me or about me ever again and for me not to go by his house and if I did then he would call the cops and not to even bother texting him back. So I didn't respond. On Saturday when I woke up I had like 6 unread texts. He was saying g that he wanted me to go with him to open up a bank account and that he wanted to see our daughter. I couldn't respond because in between that time my phone service got suspended . I could only receive texts and calls I couldn't make any outgoing calls or texts. He got mad because he thought I was ignoring him so he said that I was a liar and I didn't miss him and that he better not see me out partying anywhere. I decided to go by his apt. When I got there he wasn't there so I left a note and went by his mom's apt( she lives in the same complex) At first my daughter was excited that she was going to see her but when her grandma opened the door and grabbed her my daughter started crying. Her grandma asked her "whats wrong, you dont remember your grandma?" My daughter just shook her head no and I had to grab her. Anyway

Since then Ive been texting him all week and he doesn't respond. Finally he responded yesterday and said that I was dumb and I needed help and that he wasn't ever going to be with me again. I asked him if he planned on ever seeing our daughter and he said that he was planning to move out of town and move on with his life and he wanted me to move on and that I could drop off our daughter to his moms house anytime cause she missed her. I asked him when I should drop her off and he said whenever I want. I called his mom this morning and she doesn't answer the phone. The thing is I am scared that this time he really means what he says. I don't believe him and I know he doesn't totally mean what he says because otherwise he wouldn't of even responded to me. All the things he says are things he's said before but he always comes back around. He usually means the opposite of what he says.

I guess I have two questions here: should I press the issue about my daughter seeing him. He hasn't made any efforts and I'm the one initiating him seeing her. Should I continue to call his mom?

Am I stupid for still wanting him? How do I let him go even though that's not what I want

First off, this man seems very controlling and it's good you are not with him anymore.
Second, If he wanted to see his own daughter bad enough, he will initiate it.