I am so insecure and jealous it seems to be driving a wedge between my boyfriend and I, how does one stop this without buying these books and things?

How are you jellouse or is just everything in gen?

Do you think you don't deserve him, like he's way better than you? Or are you jealous at other people who get in touch with him or both?

If your not willing to do what it takes to help yourself then what's the point??

You have to read and learn, before you can make a plan to be better than what you are.

Its called working on yourself.

Can you give some examples of your jealousy and insecurity and how it relates to your relationship?

Does he do something in particular that stirs it up or have you always had the jealous, insecure issues?

There are only two possibilities I think. Either your instinct is telling you something is going on that he is hiding, or you are insecure. That's what jealousy usually is in my opinion.

Insecurity really sabotages relationships because it is never pleasant to the one that is not trusted. Eventually the one party gets fed up with walking on egg shells because they don't know when something accusatory is going to come out of the woodwork.

Try to talk to him more. Explain up front that you are jealous, and you don't know why. That is the truth. Let him talk, he will probably reassure you. Ask questions even if they sound like they may be weird, but get them out. If you are satisfied after a good talk about jealousy, and he feels better having reassured you, then try your best not to bring the topic up again. It isn't easy to have 'blind faith', but at some point, you have to trust him. Otherwise it will eat you up, and drive him out.