I've been in a relationship for 4 years,he cheated on me once sometime in 2008. We both decided to work it out and to be with one another. In the back of my head I worried if he would do it again. I try my best to not think of it, but it seem like most of the time even if were making love or watching television, the thought come to my mind and I get all emotional and want to leave him. I know he made a mistake I forgave him, I just don't give up so easy. I guess I want to know when a man cheats once, would it happen again?

2008 till now is almost 2 years. If you're still not over it, then why torture yourself by continuing this relationship?

Make it a clean break and find someone with a clean slate so that you don't have to suffer.

Two years is a long time to hold on to past feelings over a mistake. Unless he gives you evidence that he is cheating again, you have to not get carried away by past fears and let this go.

Has he really given you a reason not to trust him?

Why do you think you can't get past this?
Did you honestly work through this,or was it mostly swept under the carpet?

You have to either work on letting it go or else decide that you can't get get over it,in which case you shouldn't be together.

When a relationship has been broken due to a major crack in trust, it is a very, very difficult thing to forgive completely. It may nag at you, as it does now,because the issue is not over.

You are still affected by it. That is not fair to you, to him, or to your future together. Trust has to be mended in order to fully heal.

There are no guarantees that cheating will not happen again, to any couple. Nobody expects it to ever happen, but it does, in the best of relationships. Nobody is immune from the possibility.

But what will make you stronger is to communicate to him, that you are still affected by his affair with her, and you'd like to go to counselling- together. It is not easy to face your fears and fully commit again to trusting someone 100%, after they have cheated on you. But, of course it can be done, but only if both parties are willing, and if you can both agree you want to save the relationship.

Some things you can sort and fix on your own, but this is not one of them.

I think you will feel much more confident, and able to move past this, with a little professional help.