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Nov 13, 2012, 11:00 AM
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What should you do if you catch your boyfriend sexting?
So my boyfriend has a problem with sexting. I've caught him plenty of times. I have broken up with him over it, argued all night, basically done everything to show him that it's not tolerated.
His reasonings are always excuses. I say that because I have not done anything ill will towards or to him. We've been together over a year now and this morning I saw that he is back up to his old ways.
A part of me feels like I should not have went through the phone in the first place. But the other part of me felt like it was something that I needed to know.
I want to end things because I don't want to seem like someone who accepts this behavior but then again this is the person I thought I would be spending the rest of my life with...
Thoughts?
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Expert
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Nov 13, 2012, 12:19 PM
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My thoughts on this are, if it isn't physical and you still love him, keep trying to convince him you don't tolerate it.
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Nov 13, 2012, 04:11 PM
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I say get out of the relationship
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Jobs & Parenting Expert
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Nov 13, 2012, 04:18 PM
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If you stay with him, you will have a lifetime of his infidelity ahead of you.
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Expert
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Nov 13, 2012, 04:22 PM
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Matt and wondergirl, sorry I don't agree, it is only sexting, it isn't physical, no harm done. What has to happen here is a sit down drag out talk on what is wrong. Maybe not enough 'dirty talk' in the relationship (this isn't me but I can identify with it).
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Jobs & Parenting Expert
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Nov 13, 2012, 04:28 PM
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But he has done it time and time again, tick, and there may be more going on that she doesn't know about. Can she trust him at all?
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Expert
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Nov 13, 2012, 04:30 PM
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Trust issues are hard to get by, but he has only be sexting, not physical stuff, so therefore my answer. OP has not come back, so we will see. It is a shame to kick the cat out the door.
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Nov 13, 2012, 04:33 PM
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She's already feeling ill at ease ("I want to end things..."), so why live with that monkey (or cat?) on her back?
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Expert
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Nov 13, 2012, 04:47 PM
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Maybe, not excluding the OP's opinion on this, because as I said, she has not been back, which is usually the case.
Cat in the hat, cat on my back... I don't know...
If she wants an excuse then this is one that may work for her??
Back to you
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Jobs & Parenting Expert
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Nov 13, 2012, 04:49 PM
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Why don't OPs ever come back? We add so much to their lives and so nicely.
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New Member
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Nov 13, 2012, 05:08 PM
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Thanks everyone for your opinions... I will let you all know how it goes. I don't have any male friends so I like to know the male's perspective...
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Junior Member
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Nov 13, 2012, 05:37 PM
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No problem
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Nov 13, 2012, 06:08 PM
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I totally disagree with the attitude of "it's only sexting". It's naïve to think that this is not a way to fish for potential sexual partners - he knows these people. I personally wouldn't tolerate for my partner to be viewing pornography, going to strip clubs, sexting, etc. For one thing, I consider it emotional infidelity. I would consider it gross disrepect of me and my feelings. Further, it's really immature and childish and I am not interested in childish men.
I know that morals are out of style these days, but I don't know of any successful marriages where morals are absent from the relationship. Hold yourself to high moral standards and hold your boyfriends to high standards. There will be less men to choose from, but the men who are left to consider as your potential partner in life will be the cream of the crop and will last.
Get rid of this immature guy and save yourself a lot of irritation and hurt.
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