I was in a bad relationship for 3 years and it ended in a DV because I cheated with the man I am with now. This new man has been wonderful to me and is everything I could ever want in a person. We get along on many levels and are even preparing to move in with each other, after only 7 months.

Things are great but there is a catch. He is still hung up on his BEAUTIFUL ex girl friend. It's been a year or so since they have been together and were together for 8 years. He has had other girlfriends after her, but none of them have moved in with him, like I am about to.

I find text on his phone from his ex girl friend. His sister still hangs out with his ex. He gets drunk and calls her. Still has pictures of this women on his Facebook and in his phone. I don't know if I should pursue this new man, or if I'm better off letting him work things out with her. He says he's over her and they'll never get back together, but he is still in contact with her ALL the time!!

What should I do?

Does it sound like he's over her? It sure doesn't sound that way to me.

You'll be moving in with him and he'll still be going on about her. Are you prepared to deal with that? What happens if she tells him that she wants him back?

Don't do it. I found out too late that the guy I am with was still hanging on to his ex's. He finally quit talking with them or seeing them after a year. Now 2 years later he is sneaking around with this girl and lying to me about it. So I say RED FLAG!

If he's still hung up on his ex, things are not wonderful. If he's still in contact with her, he is not over her.

Respect yourself and find a man who is willing to give himself entirely to you. This one, apparently, isn't. He's still attached to his past.

Don't move in with him just keep dating and see what happens. It's a big red flag when an ex is still in the picture of who you are dating. You have seen enough to be warned on this one.