I don't know why I'm so stupid. I usually have to trouble making friends its when I try that problems occur and I do stupid things. I had this friend he's like 45 I'm 14 I know that may seem weird but we were close and I could tell him anything. He also was like a father to me since mine isn't part of my life. Anyway over a period we grew distant because of some irritating things I was doing. We still have a semblance of a relationship but its different he treats me as he would an adult sort of aloof. Whereas before he was friendly. What should I do apologizing isn't enough a gift perhaps? Or give him some space: perhaps he thinks I'm pressurizing him.

What kind of relationship did you have with him?

If it was romantic in any way then distance is best.

If it was a child , mentor type thing than a sincere apology may work

45 and 14?? It was only after I read your other post did I understand that you have little family support, or structure, but its still unclear what this relationship is about. Clarify please as to why you even are with this fellow. Why are you not with your sister?

Does he know he may be asked to take care of you while your grandmother is away?

I think you should display good behavior, and show respect. Who puts up with the hassles of a half raised brat, who causes problem? Grandma would be very embarrassed.

Just be respectful and mature about the situation, explain that you are sorry and show him you are capable of being a friend.

Okay/ About my grandmother Talaniman. She's not dealing with the situation with my sister very well. She's making murderous threats and provocative ones like:'I will stick with bottle(rum) up your hole". Or even I will take that thing you have in front of you and wring it off. What am I supposed to do. Everything gets her angry. When I'm the perfect child she comes and complains to me about others. In fact on one occasion she told me to go and touch up the gentleman's genitals.

Then perhaps you may want to contact the authorities as it's better to get them involved than having this type of environment.

Well. What would they do. I don't want to to into a foster home where I'll be abused or something. I mean I have people still here who can help me through. I've survived for 10 years. I don't know what effect leaving will have on me.

Talk to the people that are willing to help you-its doesn't sound like a healthy situation to be in.

I hope your relative is under medical supervision?

Things have been improving I mean between me and the gentleman. However, the home situation has worsened. My Grandma chased me into my bedroom. And constantly threatened to kill me once I exited and kept push a knife between the door (There's a hole).

We're friends again.