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    redneckboy1184 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 9, 2008, 01:06 PM
    What should I do?
    I've been with my girlfriend for over 3 years now. We have two childern together. I caught her cheating on me about a year ago. Since then every time she goes out or goes to work, I accuse her of being with someone else? We are always fighting over stupid things. I love my kids but I don't want them to see us fighting all the time. I don't want to leave them seeing there father only on certion days. I was adopted so I never seen my parents. She wants to get married, but she is still married to someone else but she doesn't know where he is. Every time she gets the money to divorce him, she spends it on something else. Should I stay and work things out, or move on?? :(
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    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
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    Nov 9, 2008, 01:45 PM

    You took her back, so stop confronting her. That simple, as you forgive, and let it go. Then your kids wouldn't see you arguing all the time.

    Can't you quietly work together, through some honest communications, to set boundaries, and limits, that work for you both?

    If you can't, then what's the point of staying, and fighting?

    Counseling is always a good option, preferably together, but you could benefit by going yourself.
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    TrueFaith Posts: 1,202, Reputation: 313
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    Nov 9, 2008, 02:34 PM

    You took her back.
    The second you did that.

    You chose to live like this,
    So don't complain and don't hold that over her head you forgave her, live with the choice.

    There is just no point in taking people back after they cheated.. no matter what reason.. because there will always be fights and miss trust.

    Best of luck to you

    I hope you work this issue out
    If you can't then I would leave

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