I have been with this girl for 4 years she is 38. She treated me real bad never wanted us to advance in our relationship. No matter what I tried everything preached over and over. She never cared what I wanted or how I felt. She lied all the time. I was at her beck and call. She spends very little time with me or shows me 1% love affection. For 2 years. I just caught her with another man a month ago and one lie after another. She tells everyone she is so happy in love with him and he makes her feel like and angel he has a heart of gold. She is never letting him go no way. We are broke up a 6 weeks and she tries to keep in contact with me in some sort of way threw emails. She tries to tell me how happy she is. She says I could have had that to. She looks for reasons to talk to me and keeps asking me did I have sex with anyone degrades who ever I date. Asking how I am doing and asking about my family But I do not reply to her emails. Yet she wants to buy things for my kids and asks to call them. Why is she doing this? She don't want me she is happy with her new man? Why is she doing this? What's going on with her? We never spoke on the phone 6 weeks the first 2 weeks a little on msn. But I gave it up. Now just a short little emails a couple of lines I DO NOT REPLY. I just ignore them and her. Will she stop eventually? She keeps saying it hurts that much I won't even talk to her. She says she is sorry for everything.

Listen, PLEASE.

If you follow this advice your life will be better.

I have seen people on here ignore things and get hurt worse.

So, here is your chance:

1) Tell her to please not contact you and that your relationship is 100% over.
2) Then ignore her if she does contact you
3) Change your number and your email and your MSN
4) Ignore her
5) Ignore her
6) Ignorer her
7) Ignore her
8) Ignore her
9) Ignore he
10) Ignore her

She used you. Now walk tall and walk on.

DO NOT LOOK BACK... In 90 days you will feel a lot different. And in less than that you will feel better. When someone is abusive, we need to isolate and detox. This is your time... Someone BETTER is on the horizon!

Oh, and "WHY" is she contacting you? Guilt, guilt, guilt and selfishness... she had a buddy that did what she wanted for a long time. That would be nice to have again...

It sounds like she has some control issues going on here. Evidently she wants to know that you're still available to her as a backup plan if need be. Of course, you have no contact with her whatsoever, delete her e-mails and do not let her speak with your kids or purchase anything for them. Better yet, block her e-mail address from your inbox. If she tries calling you, block her phone number also.

You deserve applause for having the conviction for not replying to her messages. But I second Ash's advice that you should change your contact information so you don't even have to see her messages. Does it matter to you anymore that she says she's sorry? Why does it matter that you know what she's doing to you? She's done her damage and you realise how she's treated you in the past. Nothing ever heals completely and it doesn't seem to me that she's helping that process. Leave her alone. You have better and more important things to do with your life.

I think she just considers you as a second option. She lost someone who she could use and apparently, she want that back. Move on, block her, don't even look at her messages. Move on, and move on for good.