:( I posted a few weeks ago about my boyfriend telling me that he occasionally fantasized about someone else in bed.

After much thought and great advice... I let it go even though it bothered me immensly.

Today I saw (his email was up on my computer) that she has emailed him over the last couple days. It's all Innocent chit chat, although she is moving into our little part of town in a couple weeks... and oh yeah there is the part where he asked for her cell phone number.

THe worst part? She asked about me... even asked are you still with the pretty girl I met at the christmas party? And he didn't even answer the question or mention me.

I can't help it I am pretty much feeling really stupid right now for letting this go.

Thoughts?

Yes she contacted him first, but she asked him if he was still with me and he never even mentioned me. He talked about getting together and playing cards with her kids and his son like I don't even exist.

Am I paranoid now?

Ps

The thread was "don't know what to think"

After reading your other post I thought it was pretty harmless, but with this new information, I think a word to the wise should be sufficient, and you can begin by letting your b/f know you draw the line between innocent fantasy, and actually, talking to the object of his fantasy, in such a demeaning way to you.

If he won't listen, bet she will, when she finds you do indeed exist. Start with him though, as he should be clear how you feel.

To be really honest, if it where me, somebody would need a place to stay. Talk first though, as you aren't me!!

Yeah we talked last night, he doesn't know I read his email... so he is wondering why I am asking. Its not like I looked for it, he left it up on my computer. So I told him that I had sent him an email and to check his, so he did and immediately scrolled past her email. I asked who "amy" was and he blew it off saying she emailed HIM out of the blue. I asked if he mentioned me and he said What do you want me to say? Then answered every question after that with a Why question of his own.

Going to bring it up tonight. He isn't going to claim injured party for me reading his email to back out of this one. I am just going to come clean and tell him I read it. It's probably deleted by now, but I can quote every word unfortunately.

Thanks for the reply.

**If he won't listen, bet she will, when she finds you do indeed exist. Start with him though, as he should be clear how you feel.***

She was asking about me in the email. She said someone told her we were still together, so that implies to me she was asking "someone" who knows us if WE were still together for whatever reason, and then asking HIM to confirm. I was told she is married but not "happily"

It seems to me if someone emailed me and asked if I was still with "the cute guy" I was seen with at a christmas party I would start by saying "yes I am and his name is **** we are doing ****."

Is that a girl way of thinking? AM I being too picky?

No your not, and your right as he has to at least be honest, and should have no trouble telling any cutie he is unavailable. That's called loyalty, plus the fact she is married?

You had better nip this in the bud and keep your eyes on him. Maybe re-evaluating this relationship would be wise, or at least work together to redefine the boundaries of this relationship.

You two have some work to do for sure, if this will survive.