Relationships are a funny thing. Some people argue to make up, others argue because they are unhappy with themselves or the situation, others, just for the sake of arguing. Have you ever heard the saying "Don't come to me with a problem unless you have a solution"? Maybe next time you all argue, instead of arguing back, ask him what it is he thinks you all should do to resolve it. I'll tell you something my boyfriend and I did, and it may sound a bit silly, but it actually worked well for us (to each their own I suppose). We sat down for 30 minutes and decided that each of us would say what it is we don't like about the other, or what it is that bothers us. Now before doing it, you have to prepare yourself, because you CAN'T get mad at the other for being honest. This gave us a chance to get out in the open everything that was bothering us. Some things were small like "I hate the way you cut me off when I'm talking" or "I hate the way you stay on the phone through our whole dinner" while other things were big like "I hate that you never even try to see things my way" or that "when I try and talk to you about problems I'm having, you brush them off as if they were minimal" but all things said were fixable. Once we knew what it was that irritated the two of us, we were able to grow from that. My boyfriend and I have now been together a long time and we're now happier than we've ever been. If you feel you both are ready for it, give it a shot. This gives you both a chance to say what's on your mind with no arguing involved. Good luck hon and I hope that things work out well for you! Let me know how things go.
<3 Leslie
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