I'll try to make this as short as possible...

About two months ago, my girlfriend told me she needed some space because she was just working too much and had no time for herself. Keep in mind this is her first "real" job which she started in August. She told me the space meant just not hanging out so much during the week (we would eat dinner together and hang out 3 or 4 nights a week) and not hang out so much on the weekends, just do things mostly at night and maybe just one night.

Then, about a month ago, I got pissed one weekend when we didn't do a thing together, I hadn't seen her in over a week! I told her this is not the type of relationship I want to be in! So on Sunday night of that weekend she tells me she wants a break. I say we will just break up because I don't believe in breaks, but she insists that we don't. She said she needed some time to think about things. She gave me a half-assed answer as to what "things" she was talking about, but mostly said that it was her job and she has been working too much and it is putting a strain on relationships, both ours and her friends.

We didn't talk much that week, but the following weekend she asks for me to come over so we can talk. She tells me she just doesn't feel right and she's not happy, not really about us, but just in general. I ask her what she means by break, she says just to slow things down... like we don't need to talk all the time or hang every night of every weekend, but she still wants me to spend some time with her. She said she doesn't want to hook up with or date other people and she doesn't want me to do it either. I say fine, we'll see how this goes.

So we don't talk for a few days, and then she asks me to come over for dinner. Everything went as though we were still together. Again, we don't talk for a few days, the weekend comes, we didn't do anything together, more because I was doing my own thing. She sends an email saying that she loves me, she just needs some space, that this is really hard for her, that we've been through tough times and that we will get through this. We don't really talk for the whole week and Saturday comes. She asks me if I want to get lunch with her and just hang out and watch a movie. We eat lunch together. Lay together just like we would if we were dating. We talk a little bit about what is going on. She says she just doesn't want a boyfriend right now. I ask her what she would tell people if they asked her if she was in a relationship and she said that she would tell them that yes, she was in one. She said if she wanted a boyfriend right now, then I would be the one. It's just weird because when we are together and talk, it's just like it was when were dating... we lay together, kiss, she calls me babe and hun, and we've even slept together. She was looking at engagement rings about a week before we went on this break!

I guess I'm just really confused. Is she being honest? Is she getting nervous because this summer will be 3 years (which is by far her longest relationship)? (She has told me that I was the first guy, of about 5, she dated that she knew she could actually marry) Does she really need space because of work or is she taking this time to think about us? Is she just keeping me holding on until she figures out if she wants me or something else? To me, you don't go on a break with someone and force yourself to not be with them if you really do love them. Sometimes I feel like I should just break things off completely to make her realize what it would be like without me. So it's been about a month since we officially went on a break, should I give her another month and force her to make a decision and if she can't then we will be completely done?

I have good days and bad. For the most part, I don't mind the break. Sometimes I think everything will be OK and other times I think there is no way we are getting back together. Any advice?

Well a girls mind tends to get messy and we seem to confuse ourselves aswel as other people but next time she asks you to cal over or go to dinner say no and ave her mind wonder and let her think wats more important her job or the person she is supposed to love dearly and we girls always try to cover up by saying things like we need to think about things when really there is nothing to think about we just need that space and time alone to realise how much we love the pearson and to think to ourselves 'do I really love him?? 'and her mind will finally decide what it really wants and if she can't find time for the person she loves then there is no hope in that relationship... and the reason she asks you to call over and go for dinner is more then likely because she misses you and wants your company because she enjoys it so much but give her some time and space to think

If I were in your situation I would just leave her. I know that's easier said than done, but if she can't balance a job and a relationship then how's is she going to handle being married to someone the rest of her life?

I don't believe in breaks either. You want to be with someone or you don't. It's not fair that you are there whenever she needs you, but whenever you need her she needs a break cause she's confused.

I'm sure you could find someone that's worth your time that knows how to balance their life because it seems like you do.

THis girl is bad news, and nothing you want to be a part of. She wants your around when she is lonely, or needs to feel wanted... after you give that to her she is OK for a week or so. You are totally right, you don't want a relationship like this. She wants someone in her life, but only when she wants them there, and that is BS!

Stay in this, and you will end up pulling your hair out or just hating this girl. Get out, tell her to call you when she figures out what she wants, but play more more games with this child. I hate this crap, I am going through this same thing now and that is how I solved my problem.

If you do break it off, be kind, be strong, and be honest. Just because things don't work now, doesn't mean she can't get her crap together later. Good luck!

She is pulling the fade on you. She is slowly pulling back while she searches out a new boyfriend but keeping you on the line. If nothing better comes along she pulls you back in.

Never listen to a woman's word! Look at her actions only.

Time for you to start looking for a new girlfriend. She's lost interest or try to get the interest back by not being available and a challenge.

Just Propose To Her That's A Way To See If She Loves You
Im A 22 Female And I Know A Womna's Mind Breaks Signify She Knows Someone But Doesn'rt Want To Hurt You Or She Is Having Problems And Is Confused And Needs Time.no Matter What They Case Is , Breaks Lead To Break-ups Ddon't Allow That. Maybe She's Giving U A Sign To Propose If U Love Her, Just Do It, U Can Remained Engaged For Few Years See How Uit Is And Then Get Married
Do It Man.u Willthen See What's She's Really Up To, Maybe She's Pregnant And Not Ready?
Propose

This HAS to be a joke... this is the WORST advice I have EVER read on here.

This is the LAST thing you want to do. What happens if she says yes? Are you ready to get married, or are you going to say "just kidding"? Asking a girl to marry you because you are afraid of losing her is BEYOND STUPID!

I almost made this STUPID mistake with my ex, and now I am SOOOOOO glad I am not stuck with her. You shouldn't have to try and make up this girls mind for her, she should grow up and do it herself.

If this girl said yes to marriage, it would only show you MORE that she has no idea what she wants...


I REALLY HOPE YOU ARE NOT THIS STUPID!



I know you're not!:mad:

You have posted 4 response today. Of them, three (including this one) were incredibly bad pieces of advice. This one in particular was reported and removal requested. While I'm prone to agree that the advice was very bad, I don't agree it was dangerous and this issue is one that is subject to opinion. So I'm not going to delete it.

I will suggest that at only 22, you haven't a lot of experience and your judgement may be suspect. So you should take more care in answering questions. If the terrible advice continues, we may be forced to assume you are doing this deliberately and take further action.

Yeah, I'm really in a bind... most people seem to say just end it and see where things go from there. I guess I know that that is probably the best thing to do... I guess I'm just worried that I will end up pushing her out of my life forever. I'm not the type of person to just let things go that I really want. She told me she hasn't and doesn't want to be with or hook up with anyone else. I actually tried the no contact thing, or should I say just making it more difficult for her and acting like I wasn't waiting around, and when I didn't answer, she actually got pissed off at me.

Things are just really weird, I wish I knew more about what was actually going on, but I can only can give what she tells me, which might not always be the most honest thing. But I feel like I have no reason to not trust or believe her. Again, her email said she "just needs to get her life together. We have been through tough times and we've overcome it...we can do this! You know no matter what happens, we will always be together!" It's that last sentence that throws me for a loop because it seems like, something that could happen is that we don't get back together.

I am so confused!

In all my years of doing these types of boards, this is the worst adivce I have ever heard. And I have read the reports of this post. From my opinion, I would like to delete the post myself, but just because it is bad, I don't see it as dangerous or against the rules of the site. So I have to agree there is no reason to delete it,