I am still in my relationship nearly 9 month now. I feel as though she is the one for me, she s perfect, not just my girlfriend she's my best friend. This is hard for me because I know I am not the one for her. I think about this because she never sounds positive about the future. I think she maybe knows this and uses it to her advantage, Sometimes it is annoying as we will go through a stage where we see a lot of each other just as it gets good and then I won't see her agen until four days later because she puts is off till the. Its like she pushes me away. When I think about it in the time I have been seeing her I have been more unhappy than happy. Mostly happy when I am with her. I have thought about ending the relationship but I don't think I want to as I believe she is the love of my life. How should I also deal with this- we have not yet had sex I have asked her and she says she doesn't answer questions Its like I can't talk to her about some things?? I am not in the relationship just for this reason. Because she is the love of my life I am starting to think you know maybe its been a mistake our relationship, I know its not nice to say but I think I've changed as a person while I have been seeing her. I have never felt comfy in our relationship which then makes me worried because I think I would be in pieces if I lost her. I get quite upset sometimes but I just get on with it. I you can help me with all of these issues it is much appreciated.

Why don't you have a discussion about her doubts about you?
Like tell her you really care but you sense that she is having doubts by some of her comments and you feel maybe it would do your relationship good to go over everything and get on the same page.

After only 9 months, and everything you have written, it wishful thinking at best. You have to many issues, and questions, and only she can answer you, but the communications is just not there.

I don't even think she is as emotionally invested, as much as you obviously are. This must be a first relationship, or your young and inexperienced, and have mistaken intense attractions, for love, but even you can see she doesn't feel as you do, so slow yourself down, and start paying attention with a realistic view of females, this one in particular, and manage your own emotions, and feelings much better.

When a female doesn't communicate, that's not a good sign and the relationship cannot grow. When she doesn't feel the same as you, the relationship will not grow. Trust me, under those circumstances you may be fooling yourself that she is the one.

Sorry to break it to you, but you guys barely talk.

Without communication your relationship will surely sink, jump overboard now and get into a life boat and paddle to shore. It will be a rough journey but worth it in the end.