I don't believe in destiny. I believe it's a small world sometimes.
I met my wife when I was teaching at a college. Shed come in with a coworker to use a machine our university had for an analysis. I saw her once and was immediately attracted. She was there only a couple of hours and gone before I had the chance to talk more to her. I even thought about calling her company up to ask her out to coffee, but I thought it might be a little odd and I had enough going on in my life at that time. But I absolutely had an attraction to her.
Two years later I quit that job to do a surgical education research position. At the last hour the job fell through. Id already quit the other position and was left scrambling for work. Did temp work and then was hired by the same company that my wife worked at. I knew she was employed there, but it wasn't the reason I went... it was a good offer when I needed one.
Long story short, after she had a relationship turn sour and I had one go nuclear we found ourselves single and working on a project together. In time I left the company to avoid a conflict of interest and later married her.
Now... was I destined to? I hate the idea of destiny. I hate the idea of soul mates. I think sometimes people are lucky enough to get second chances. I think all the other times we don't, we don't call it destiny.
So... while I hesitate to say that there is some force that moved me to my wife, I don't diminish the fact that I saw her again after being interested a few years before.
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