I have met at guy at my job. The first month, he chased me but I tried to push him off but started to like him but just when I was about to tell him that I was ready, he flipped. Now he is no longer calling me for lunch or asking me out to dinner or coming by my office or by my house. He said that he still likes me, but I don't understand how when I don't even talk to him outside of work and rarely then. When I ask him over for dinner, he would say OK but then he tells me that he don't think that it's a good idea. After a few times I asked him if there was someone else, and he says that there is no one else. But after many times questioning him about that, he finally says that he talks to people on the phone and he says that there is one person that he is feeling but it's nothing, he haven't found anyone. I asked him if I need to back off, he says no. We talked at one tim eto see what could happen he said that let's play it by ear, I'm not saying yes and I'm not saying no... But it's as if he has said no because he makes sure that there is never a time for us to be together. Every time I ask him over, he makes an excuse, I ask him to come by my office, there's an excuse, he say he would come but doesn't, he say he would call but don't so most of the time that I see him is when I go by his office. I will see him at work and he would give me the story that he really likes me but I'm just a distraction because he know if he be with me he would want to be with me more. But I know that's not true but why would he tell me this? And the biggest thing that gets me, he has kissed me (a very passionate kiss at that) but why, if he is not feeling me? When he looks at me I feel the pasion between us (though I thought) because when we part I don't hear anything from him.
And just recently, we were together and it seem so right, when he kissed me, when he touched me... everything. Again looking in each others eyes, it felt so right. BUT the next day, he didn't even talk to me and I haven't talked to him since. I don't understand why he is doing this to me.

I think he's into you... but not at the level you are into him. In other words, he wants to get to know you, but he doesn't want you to jump into something with him. You ignored him for awhile and then suddenly you went after him with no mercy. He's probably confused what happened to cause this change in behavior, while at the same time he doesn't want to lose you all together, he just wants you to slow down.

Your in way deeper than he is, and you really should back off. He is making you chase him now, and I really think you should re-evaluate your own actions, and don't put yourself out for this fellow too much.

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