What to do?
Hi everyone,
I have a very puzzling and painful situation that I'm hoping you'll be able to help me with.
I've liked this guy for a long time, and I've always known that he liked me back. About 2 years ago, he asked me out, and I declined because I wasn't ready for a relationship. I got scared, covered it all up, and ran away from it.
I haven't forgotten about him though. I often thought about him, and we sometimes spoke through email. What started getting puzzling was that the emails weren't just "friendly" they were more than that. We were flirting, and we both knew it.
We decided to meet up today in person and have coffee. It was so natural, it felt as though we had been together forever. We went on a walk, and held and embraced each other. It was so comfortable, so nice. Suddenly, as we were walking and holding hands, he abruptly released my hold and said, "i'm sorry, please just stop, i'm sorry if I gave you the wrong impression". I was really confused because we had just spent the whole afternoon nestling and cuddling.
Later, I emailed him to see what was up, and explained that I now feel ready for a relationship but I need to make sure that we are on the same page (because I was confused about what had happened today). He said that after I had rejected him 2 years ago, he was crushed and it took him a while to recover, and that he can't get involved with me.
I don't buy what he says. I know we have something there, and I believe that he does too- he's just covering it up because he doesn't want to get hurt again. I understand that, but I know that we can be together forever, and that we shouldn't let something that happened in the past stop us from moving forward (slowly) into the future.
What do I do?
Please help.
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