Ok... my boyfriend and I have been together for a good yr and a half. Towards the end of our relationship he just changed on me. And I know that everyone changes because they get comfortable but still this change is strange. He quit taking me out and stopped coming over. And I know he is busy with football and all but last yr didn't seem to be a problem for him to make time for me? So what is so different from last yr to this yr?I try to talk to him but he turns it around on me. He is a good guy but dang... its so stressful. I am really easy going and I don't complain unless its needed. But honestly I think he is acting this way because I told him that I was joining the armed forces. After I told him that he just went down the tubes and started acting funny. Yeah he has done the same line like any typical male who thinks they want to be with you for the rest of their life, but I don't ever listen because I know they don't ever truly mean it. But he is acting like he does... he said he want to have a family with me and all that good stuff... but is it wrong for me not to believe in what he says?? He doesn't know that I don't believe it I feel it. I don't know anymore. I want to be with him but its hard I don't like the change and I have tried to talk and reach each others differences but he isn't metting me on the step that he should. So if anybody has any advise I would greatly appreciate it.

Guys think that when you join the military you are going to always be gone and never have time for them. He might be worried they will have you moving all over the place and he might not want to keep uprooting to different states. If you are seriously considering joining ask the recruiting office about these types of things so you can reassure him if and how much you will be there for him and how much you will have to be away. Depending on what you want kind of determines how much you will have to travel. My daughter is a C130 mechanic in the Air Force and they are required to do so many away weekends but some are volunteer and some help you advance to different levels and benefits but are not mandatory.
He might be in a 'wait and see what you do' frame of mind before he feels comfortable with you again because he is most likely scared not knowing what kind of future he would have to look forward with you. My Michele's boyfriend was the same way at first and they still have their arguments over it but they are working it out.
They own their own home in Ohio and are looking forward to their first baby in April.

What did you expect? Think about it for 2 or 3 seconds. You must have known the chances for him to explode were there before you told him. Imagine him telling you he's going to become a Priest or that he's on his way to Italy to coach a girls high school football team. Right or wrong he responded as many others would have and right or wrong you have every right to your choice of career. If you do join the military I thank you now for your service and wish you well.