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    Jul 13, 2012, 04:34 PM
    What did I do wrong? Why does my friend hate me so suddenly?
    A week ago, I was talking to my friend on Facebook. I met him online and we've known each other for years.
    We were talking about our old memories and I expressed my regrets that we haven't been spending as much time together, and maybe we're not as close as I thought we were. And how I was the only one who was maintaining the friendship.

    He stopped responding after that. I waited a week for him to respond but he never did. I don't have any other form of communication with him, and since he was ignoring my messages, I posted this on his wall.

    "I'm honestly really confused and frustrated. It feels like you're shutting me out. I'm hoping you would talk to me so we could put this behind us. If this continues much longer, I'm going to need to stop waiting and just assume that you do not want to be friends anymore. That's the last thing I'd want to do."

    A few minutes later, he deleted the post off his wall and blocked me from his friends list on Facebook.

    We used to be really close and now it's just fallen apart. I don't know what to do now.
    I know you guys are probably going to tell me to move on, but I admire him so much and he's such an interesting and cool friend. It hurts so much to be not cared for by someone you valued and trusted. He apparently appears to not be interested in staying friends, I feel lost and I don't know what I'm going do now. There's nobody anything like him anywhere around, and I'm stuck here.
    All I wanted was for us to be close friends again. But now I've ruined everything by being stupid and annoying.
    I just can't figure out why he didn't seem to care at all. If I have to forget about him, it will be so hard to replace him in my life.
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    Jul 13, 2012, 04:58 PM
    Telling him that you aren't as close and that you're the only one maintaining the friendship. Is an insult to some guys because sounds like you gave him the crazy girlfriend act when your just suppose to be his friend and only his friend. (at that time) I could only think you came on way to strong going in that area saying ''I'm the only one maintaining the relationship.''
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    Jul 13, 2012, 05:19 PM
    When guys hear that a girl tells them that she's the only one keeping the friendship going, its not going to come lightly. Very, very few guys take that lightly. Maybe he just changed though? Like you said, you once were close but you have become distant. Maybe that is why
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    Jul 13, 2012, 05:51 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by marcusaurelius1 View Post
    When guys hear that a girl tells them that she's the only one keeping the friendship going, its not going to come lightly. Very, very few guys take that lightly. Maybe he just changed though? Like you said, you once were close but you have become distant. Maybe that is why
    Well I talk about boxing experiences a lot in my answers but I think this should help you. I was very close to this 1 boxer who was 18 I was 15 at the time. He was the guy who chose what 4 boxers represented our gym at the time I thought we were so close that no matter what I would always get picked until tournament day came. He went to the chalkboard that showed our records of fighting among each other I was in the top 4 on that chalkboard. But he chose someone else because he was closer to them. You may think you were close ,but you need to realize people can have hundreds of friends and it takes a lot to truly be close.

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