It's been more than 400 days since we fell in love and got into a relationship.. We love each other a lot.. Beyond limits.. We love each other more than anything else.. She's possessive about me, I'm over possessive. She's doing architecture and all her friends, both guys and girls are *** holes.. Spoiled, pervert. I don't like any of them. Even she doesn't trust any of them but she always wants to live like them, like the way those girls dress and talk pervert and use slang.. I love her too much to let her do that. I tried and stopped her from talking all the bull **** and she stopped.

She doesn't use slang like before she doesn't talk pervert like she used to before.. But she wants to dress like them.tight clothes and exposing(not that much, but even a little is not good, because every guy here will stare at those parts till his death) I don't like her wearing those kind of dress in front of all those pervert guys. Nor do I want her to wear them outside, it's India, every guy stares through the dress.. I hate it when anyone looks at her that way and so I stop her from wearing those clothes. She listened to me after great quarrels.. But she says she can't bow before me anymore, because this is the time she can do whatever she wants and she won't be able to that however after she's married to me. I asked her the reason, I asked her why she wants to wear those clothes, to show it to the guys or for her own satisfaction. She said she likes wearing that and she won't stop now..

I would've allowed her if this place wasn't India, I told her that I'll allow her after we complete studies and move out of India. We were planning to do so. But she said she's not happy with me for the reason I restrict her so much.. And I actually do, because I am possessive about her. And I always stopped her only from the wrong things, but she thinks I have a problem with everything she does. But its not like that, I care for her and want her good that's why I stop her, not from everything but for the things which are necessary. We had fights over this for a lot of times, we broke up 2-3 times before this, but we got back together after I explained everything to her and said that I'll leave the small things on her to decide but if she's taking any wrong decision I'll stop her, she agreed to it.

But the other day I just asked her what she's wearing, I didn't like her wearing what she told me and I told her not to wear that to college and she burst out. She thinks that I'm trying to rule over her. She said she'll be happy if I'm not there but she loves me. She said she wants her freedom and wants to do whatever she likes. But how can I let her do anything wrong and just keep watching.. I just can't.. I just love her so much that I can't stop myself from stopping her where ever its necessary.. And she hates that..

She told me this morning that her bursting out on that topic of not wearing that dress yesterday was not because that only reason, she had frustration inside for so many things.. And those so many things are the things which she does or tries to do and I stop her, and when she doesn't stop even after I explain her why I'm stopping her and why its bad for her doing that, she thinks I'm the one who's wrong and so I have to stop her forcefully because I know what she's doing and what result she'll get after that..

Well so she broke up with me just because I stop her from doing the wrong stuff.. I can't even recollect what things I stopped her from, but I did because I felt that it was wrong. All those things built up frustration inside her and she's not ready to understand me at all.. What could've I done every time.. Let her take a wrong decision and cry over that later.. Or let her wear those clothes and let her go in front of all the *******s.. I was very serious with her and even my mom agreed for our marriage, I couldn't stand those **** so I stopped her.. I'd have let her do anything if I didn't love her this much and care for her this much.. I even let her do some things on her own as she told me to leave it on her and see, I did, I stopped her before but after she said that to me, I did leave it on her, she took the wrong decision again by trusting a guy friend who she was attached to a lot.. He hurt her very badly, played some ****ty games, I knew that it was going to happen but I left it on her because she was turning against me.

Things like this have happened 3-4 times and so after that I never left anything on her to decide and even she agreed that she's that dumb. But after every while she becomes the same fighter because I stopped her again.. Why can't she just see how much I love her and how many sacrifices I've made for her and just listen to the small things I tell her for her own good. Why does she think I'm the one who's wrong and why does she only see that I'm stopping her and does not see the reason behind that..

She knows how much I love her but she thinks I'm over reacting every time, I'm ****ing not.. I've seen things here with my own f'ing eyes and that's why I'm stopping her.. I tried to explain this to her many many times but she just doesn't understand.. Do I do now..! Ill get her back if I try even once, but this has happed 3 times before and I even got her back but this repeats every time.. What should I do now..? Ill die if I'm not with her, I really love her a lot.. None of us will be happy if we're not together. Our love is not even that weak so that we can get over each other.. In just one year we became so close and so strong that it's just impossible to stay away from each other. But if we get back this will repeat again and again.

It's the first time I'm writing on a website because I never need any suggestion, I make my own decision always, but today I don't know what to do. Please help me save my relationship and make it last forever, please :(

I think you need to realise that it won't change, even if you did move out of India. You said it yourself, you are very possessive. That won't change simply by moving. Men will naturally look at a pretty woman or someone who is wearing clothing that shows a bit. Don't you notice pretty women or when a woman shows a bit with her clothing?

No matter how much you may want to, you can't change her, nor should you try. She knows how you feel, you have told her enough times, so now you have to trust her. Do you think she is going to be unfaithful to you just because men may look at her?

You both would be miserable if you married as your relationship is right now. She would resent your acting as a parent, and you would resent her wanting to have her own say in things when it doesn't agree with what you want.

I know you feel that you are helping her or protecting her from making mistakes, but you are actually controlling her and that is pushing her away. A relationship like that simply will not be one full of love, understanding, acceptance, and support.

It sounds as though she is not ready to, or does not want to, be in the type of relationship that you want. You may need to either give her more time to have some freedom and make her own mistakes now and then, or end the relationship so that you can find someone who wants to marry you and be happy with the amount of control that you want to have over them.

Learn to shut up, and let her do her thing and make her mistakes and learn from them. Just be there to support, comfort, and reassure her through those mistakes without judgement. She will rebel just because you sound like a controlling daddy, and you are.

Find another way of expressing your concerns that don't come off as so strict because you are dealing with the very fragile ego of a young female that wants to be her own boss. She loves attention, and freedom, so let her. That's a sign of trust, faith, and confidence, and a healthy love that can grow, instead of being stifled and restricted.

Then she will stay because she wants you, not because you say so.