Hi I am in love with a married man and we been together for a while and I do love him but I am tried of excuses.

You type more of an explanation

Sweetheart, what you have to think about is this…. If he can cheat on his poor wife…. What do you think the chances are of him cheating on you?

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I think you should leave him alone. He's married and cheating on his wife.What makes you think he is going to have any type of respect for you? Even if he eventually leaves his wife, what makes you think he's not going to cheat on you if he cheated on her. I don't mean to sound harsh but its best that you meet someone new and make sure their not married.

And from a man's perspective, I agree. Leave the lousy dog and don't look back, he isn't worth worrying about. And like the rest have said "If he cheats on his wife then he'll cheat on you"

He's never leaving his wife.

You're his back up plan. Your just a mistress to him. You're his side whore. You mean nothing to him. You're a toy. He doesn't love you. He never loved you. He never will love you.

The only person that stops his excuses is you. You leave and the excuses end. You stay the excuses stay.

So the choice is really up to you. If you want to continue being a homewrecker and enjoy the excuses you stay. If you want the freedom and enjoyment of real men who don't screw other women then you leave.

Another one for Wildcat here, he says it best...

If you want out, you DO know what to do. Get out! It's a life-waster.

Sweetie, I think you've already answered your own question. You're tired of the excuses. You know your deserve better and worhty of a someone who respects women. A man who cheats on his wife and strings you allong does not respect women or his marrige vows. Eventhought you knew what you were getting into(if you knew he was married when you got involved withhim) if not then disregard my last sentence, you are tired of being second string and want to be someone's only love.
It'll be tough making a clean break. Asking him to leave his wife will only lead to more excuses. And you don't need that. Tell him how you feel and that as a Goddess you deserve better and want more from a relationship. You deserve marriage and children if in fact you want that. Every one wants a reason or someone to come home to at the end of the day. You are no different.
End the emotional roller coaster you're on. Make a clean break and don't look back. Don't return his calls and have no contact with him. It'll hurt at first but I know you're strong enough to handle it.

Good luck

You need to have a mentality that you deserve better. There are some good single men in this world. This one that you love is taken. Leave him alone. He will not be able to give you more than he is currently giving. If you can't accept that then find someone that is capable of giving you more.

Stop giving him sex and he will surely leave. That's all he was there for any way.