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theguy86 · Nov 3, 2009, 03:06 PM

I met this girl and we really clicked we went out for 2 months as friends and then I asked her to get serious, she didn't want to because she got out of a relationship 3 months prior, so a month l8r we got serious. We dated for 8 months and we didn't communicate enough, so we decided to end it mutually and still be friends. We have now hung out 3 times a week for 2 months now and I asked her to get into a relationship again. She said no! She doesn't like relationships. She said they are to complicated, and said her life is to hectic now. She said she still has feelings for me, and I am wondering if she will ever be ready for a relationshio. She is not the type of girl to sleep around, so I know that's not what she is after. I just don't know what to do anymore, she is the only girl I want to be with, so I keep waiting and turning other girls down, hoping my ex will change her mind! Please Help!

redhed35 · Nov 3, 2009, 03:08 PM

She's been straight up with you and told you she was not interested in a relationship,yo ucan wait all you want and turn down all the girls in the world,but it won't make her want you...

She said no... I suggest you move on,instead of waiting.

theguy86 · Nov 3, 2009, 03:12 PM

Is there anyway to get her to change her mind about relationships?

MsMewiththat · Nov 3, 2009, 03:13 PM

OK... think of it this way. Unless I am completely missing your point here... you are in a relationship with her. It's just that she doesn't want to define it as one.
You are spending time with her and enjoying her company. I would assume that she is also enjoying yours. It's the definition that she doesn't want because of her past. Take what you have and be happy.. No?

theguy86 · Nov 3, 2009, 03:18 PM

That's exactly right. Even when we were officially dating for those 8 months we where not Facebook official because she doesn't like the word relationship! I love spending time with her and she is the same. I just wish she would change her mind on that word and committ, because I'm not bragging, but I would do anything for her and I am good looking and am good to her, I just don't get why she doesn't want all that in a relationship

MsMewiththat · Nov 3, 2009, 03:51 PM

Scars soemtimes don't heal over night. Give her time. Love is patient.

theguy86 · Nov 3, 2009, 03:54 PM

OK thanks a lot, that's what I figured, but that's not what I wanted lol I want her to want one now, because I love her so much

J. Sparks · Jan 24, 2010, 02:03 PM

Let it happen if it's meant to, naturally. If you try to force the issue you will kill any chances that you have.

My advice is to just continue what you're doing, enjoying each others company and do so for the next 12 months. Forget about having to "have it official". It doesn't really mean anything in reality as one day it can be "official" and the next day she can say it's all over. Enjoy what you already have.

reckless · Jan 24, 2010, 02:12 PM

Just chill and don't pressure her into being in a relationship with you. You can be with her during weekends and stuff but don't ever bring up the relationship. She'll be your girlfriend if she wants to be, not because you want her to be.

cf_chz · Jan 24, 2010, 02:24 PM

I know its hard but give her some time

Cat1864 · Jan 24, 2010, 03:17 PM

Please pay attention to dates. The op hasn't been back since November. Hopefully, someday he will be back to update his story. However, any advice given now, would be based on out-of-date information.