I been with supposed boyfriend for couple months. When see him, its for couple hours in hotel, when con fount him on it asking why don't you take me anywhere, he says its cause his busy from 9 in morning till late, but when I call him and when he rarely calls me his still in bed ( you can tell that just woke up)

Week ago when he called he said he was in town shopping, he didn't ask me if I wanted to come. He got banned from driving so mate was driving when came to pick me up, and his mate always make suggestions in front of me saying why go out to dinner etc but he don't listen. His mate said on phone one time he really likes you and put deposit down on flat ( which don't believe) and he never like that about girl before. But when I see him its just couple hours once week. He says been messed about by girls in past cause money and know his got load money cause always flashing it about and how much his designer cl others cost. I said to him I wanted be with him not his money. He said no ever said that to him. But this how treats me.

4 days ago I cut him off with text saying I can't dealing with your temper your moments verbal abuse then your dead sweet to me. And don't want to be treated like some ring and sex service. 3 day later he calls saying why do say stupid things like that and that am being OTT. I don't normally get emotionally attached to men but with him I can't help it. I did sleep with men in past Casually and he knows this we weren't seeing each other the. I regret doing it but that was good couple years ago is that why his ashamed to take me anywhere I public, he knows I changed and back then I didn't feel like worth more deserved better. When he asked me why did that with men in past I told him something what happen with man in past and how made me feel worthless. His 25 is prick or does he still see like that girl back in day

You can't help it? Yes you can. Don't answer from now on, call some friends, go to a movie or just walking around, get out, get busy, forget about him by involving yourself elsewhere. I wonder if your emotional attachment is guilt over sleeping around in the past and now you want punishment from a man like him. STOP it.

Well, your past relationships were 'casual', as you said, and your current relationship is also 'casual', so I don't see where you have changed, and he probably doesn't either. That being said, while he continues to get what he wants, which is a casual encounter at a hotel for a couple of hours, you are scratching your head and wondering why you don't have anything more than a 'casual' relatonship going on here.

This has nothing whatsoever to do with him. He is not forcing you to meet up with him in any way, you are choosing, of your own free will, to meet him, when he is available, and wants you to. If, after two months of this, you can't figure out that these encounters are going nowhere, what advice do you need here.

This is not a relationship based on mutual attraction, friendship, or even dating. There is nothing resembling any sort of commitment on his part to even take you out for dinner, or to his home, or out to a movie. He asks you to meet him for sex, and you do it. Do you expect what has gone on so far, will lead to an actual relationship?

There is no benefit to you, only consequence. Why you subject yourself to meeting this guy for sex in a hotel room, is really beyond my understanding.

And even if he were willing to actually take you out in public, and have even a friendship with you, what do you think the chances are that he's meeting up with somebody else at that hotel. How do you know that you aren't that woman right now, and he's got a wife, or girlfriend waiting for him at home.

You say you don't normally get emotionally attached to men, and yet, you have this 'thing' for this man, who is about as unworthy of a relationship as there is.

You might want to seek counselling to find out and discover why you settle for falling for a man who only sees you secretely, once a week, for a few hours, and clearly has no intention of having anything else remotely to do with a relationship, with you.

Please read the rules of the forum. It is not okay to fault a response to your post, with a negative rating, simply because you do not like the comments made. An opinion, is NOT a fault.

Nor is my opinion 'nasty', and again, was based on what you had to say, in your own words, in your own post.

You're the one wondering what's wrong with HIM, when it is you that is making the choice to meet up for a weekly romp in a hotel room. This is truly your problem, and yours alone.

That you are defensive, and unwilling to consider well intended advice on how to face the truth of your situation, nor are you obviously capable of understanding that you have options to improve yourself, and your choices, well, so be it.

Please disregard opinions you do not like, but getting defensive, and unhappy with answers you expect, but don't get, is out of line and unnecessary.

ERROR: You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Jake2008 again.

Isn't the definition of insanity doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results?

You keep saying yes to hotel dates, and you get hotel dates. Say no, and you see if he wants more than a hotel date. If he doesn't then just dump the prick, and keep telling him NO!!!!!!!

I agree with Jake. We only give our individual opinion. We are only expressing our feelings based on a question asked. I don't know why someone would feel that then is their place to be critical or be cruel about another opinion as long its not valger or extremely mean spirited. Jake gave you sound advice because you asked.

When I saw Jake's reply after mine, I thought how much better it was than mine. Please listen and start treating yourself more like a worthwhile person - and not with this man.

This man is doing no more to you that what you let him do. Say no to the hotels and sex. It's really that simple.

Hotel dates are booty calls, a real date you keep your clothes on and have a great time.