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    on_myt_own Posts: 11, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 27, 2009, 01:55 PM
    Understanding Her
    I met a girl via online dating. We chatted and texted and spoke a lot for acouple of weeks then we decided to meet. We met for lunch and ended up spending the afternoon and evening together, walking around and chatting. Everything went really well.
    About a week later she came to my house for dinner. Everything again went really well, when she left we hugged and ended up kissing, I walked her to her car and kissed again.
    We continued texting each other a lot the day after. But then the next day I hardly heard anything from her. She came on msn that eveing and started talking to me. I asked her when she was next free, and she said she was busy the next few weekends, and asked when I was free. She agreed that we would find a time. We then said goodnight. Then the next day I heard nothing from her, at all.

    Is there any advice anyone can give me?
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    Romefalls19 Posts: 4,739, Reputation: 1130
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    Feb 27, 2009, 01:58 PM

    Don't rush things, she is busy and has a life outside of you. Don't sweat it, she made a point to ask when you are free and even said you two will make time. Don't worry so much, enjoy getting to know each other.
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    ylaira Posts: 1,193, Reputation: 118
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    Feb 27, 2009, 02:37 PM

    Buy that busy thing for now, if this goes on longer than means your meeting didn't turn out good.
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    Feb 27, 2009, 02:47 PM

    Well, there are lots of possibilities. She could have A busy life... Remember you have only met her a couple of times. But don't run after her, that's the worst thing you could do. Step back for a while and let her contact you, but don't blank her completely, send her short texts every now and then asking how she is. But if you act desperate it will scare her away for sure. The stick is don't be desperate but show you still care, and if she's really in to you and worth it, then she'll get hold of you again.
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    Feb 27, 2009, 03:24 PM

    Just relax and take it slowly , if you start hounding her about it you'll just come across as clingy and stalkarish. ( Hhmmmm... is that a word)
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    on_myt_own Posts: 11, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 28, 2009, 07:48 AM

    Well last night she texted me responding to message I sent her. I didn't get the message till 20 minutes after as I didn't have my phone on me at the time. I replied asking if she was up to anything interesting this weekend, which we usually do. And said night night. She replied instantly saying 'night night xx'. I then went back to my laptop and she had sent me a message on msn 45mins before saying 'hey'

    The last few weekends she has always texted me in the morning, where ever she been, at home or at a friends. But then today nothing. After doing a few bits this morning I sent a message just saying a few bits small knickknacks about what I had been doing. But again I have received nothing. Well I suppose I just have to wait again.
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    talaniman Posts: 54,213, Reputation: 10853

    Feb 28, 2009, 09:42 AM

    My gosh guy, you expect a lot from your new found friend. Back up, and do something else, and stop the text stalking, and give the poor girl a chance to deal with her own life.

    This should be fun as you get to know each other, and not a constant chase and hunt.

    Do you really have that kind of time, with nothing else in your life? Do you really think she has nothing better to do than sit and wait to answer your constant barrage of texting? I don't think so, and your pushing far to hard, with some unreasonable expectations.

    In short she has a life besides you, and you need one, besides her. It never works doing it your way, trust me.

    What's your hurry, and why are you so insecure, or needy with her at this early stage? Stop it, as your way to wrapped up in this for it to be healthy, or attractive.
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    on_myt_own Posts: 11, Reputation: 1
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    Mar 1, 2009, 07:09 AM
    She has sent me a couple more messages today, and asking if I'm doing fun stuff today.

    I think your right I'm expecting too much as were still at a very early stage. But will see how it all pans out.

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