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Saliba · Aug 16, 2007, 04:10 PM

OK I might sound stupid, but I just need to be there at least to listen..
Me and my ex were together for about two years... and she broke up with me, I don't really know the reason, didn't want to ask her. We broke up about 7 months ago.. and now I met this girl I like and we dated a few times out. But when I just stand next to this girl I wish she was my ex. Just like in the song lips of an angel - hinder or better than me - hinder. (who might want to look up the lyrics). My ex still loves me, she said she still loves me a few days ago over the phone.. and well I can't just dump the other girl, I like her but maybe I prefer to be friends.. (u might say tell her you want to be just friends) but I can't I'm a dumb guy. I don't know what to do, but I wownt tell her I want to be just friends with her.. I just don't know.. :( :'(

am32 · Aug 16, 2007, 04:39 PM

Originally Posted by Saliba

ok i might sound stupid, but i just need to be there at least to listen..
me and my ex were together for about two years... and she broke up with me, i dont really know the reason, didnt want to ask her. we broke up about 7 months ago.. and now i met this girl i like and we dated a few times out. but when i just stand next to this girl i wish she was my ex. just like in the song lips of an angel - hinder or better than me - hinder. (who might want to look up the lyrics). my ex still loves me, she said she still loves me a few days ago over the phone.. and well i can't just dump the other girl, i like her but maybe i prefer to be friends.. (u might say tell her you wanna be just friends) but i can't im a dumb guy. i dont know wat to do, but i wownt tell her i want to be just friends with her.. i just dont know.. :( :'(

Ok, this is from a woman side. You say she broke up with you with no true reason, this usually means that she was exploring her options and didn't want to loose you. She brushed you off for a while with hopes that the new guy would work but never cutting the rope with you. And, it seems you are falling for it. It is clear that you are not ready for a relationship because you are wishing the new girl was the old girlfriend. So, let me tell you: 1. let the new girl go because she doesn't deserve to be dragged through the ringer because you are emotionally unstable. Tell her the truth and be honest with her. She deserves the truth because she has not done anything to hurt you. 2. LEAVE THE WISHY WASHER ALONG. If she was able to walk away from you with no true grounds then she does NOT have true feelings for you. She is only telling you she loves you know because your what is know as “old fatefully”. Use this time to get yourself together and get over her. She is not worth it and if you take her back now she will do the same thing again.

Dennis777 · Aug 16, 2007, 04:53 PM

Hello.

We have 2 questions so lets look at the last one first. Your EX. Is playing you big time. If she dumped you and is still saying she Loves you she is playing you. If she honestly Loved you she would be begging you to let her come back right now. She wants to keep you hanging knowing she can snap her fingers and you will let her come back if what she has now doesn't work. Show her and yourself that your not a door matt and walk away from her. Even if she did come back she would dump you in a few weeks for her next fling.

Now lets look at your new girlfriend. If you can't give her 110% then tell her the truth that your not ready to be with anyone yet. Stringing her along is no better then what your ex is doing to you right now. If you can give her 110% GO FOR IT and enjoy your life. Let your Ex play her games with some other guy not you.

Good Luck
Dennis777

moomoo1200 · Sep 1, 2008, 11:44 PM

I say don't let the new girl go because maybe you will learn to love her she didn't hit your heart yet give it some time as for the old girl she's lonely and you might have been her last call so be careful because if you get back with her she might leave you high and dry again

nickshehe · Sep 2, 2008, 06:08 AM

One thing is for sure, let go of the ex... she's stringing you along.
The ex's always remember they love you when they see you moving on from them.
The second you let go of the new girl, and you start pursuing the ex she'll pretend nothing happened.
I would let go of the ex... and try and see if things with new girl can work out... if you're still hung up on your ex, then be honest with new girl... and spend some time ALONE to sort your head out.

talaniman · Sep 2, 2008, 06:51 AM

Didn't you know all exes still love us, but you don't see them letting you back in their lives as a b/f's, do you??

Let her go, and stop letting her plant false hope in you, as you are seeing, that's what stops you from moving on to healthier things.

Leave her alone, and get to know this new female and have fun doing it. Don't lie to her, and don't lead her on. Don't expect her to replace your ex, and above all, don't compare her.

Dating is to get to know people, and have fun doing it, and if you can't do that, be honest, and give yourself more time to mourn your losses, and regroup.