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    Gunnar22 Posts: 3, Reputation: 1
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    May 5, 2012, 08:21 PM
    I think my girlfriend has lost interest in me. What should I do?
    My girlfriend and I have been going out for 8 months. We are seriously perfect for each other. In the beginning of the relationship we both were obsessed with each other, and I know you go through that honeymoon phase. She did tell me that she does not want to be a lovey dovey couple who is all over each other and is obsessed with each other like we were.

    Lately she has been less interested in me she told me last night that she doesn't feel that spark as much anymore. She did say though that it might be because she hasn't been feeling good and that she has been stressed.

    But it's really worrying me and confusing me. I'm confused because she wants that spark but she doesn't want to be all lovey dovey. And I'm worried cause this girl is the best thing that's ever happened to me and I will do anything for her to feel that spark.

    Please help me I really need some advice to get that spark back I will do anything for that girl. Thank you.
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    May 6, 2012, 03:02 AM
    Take her to the place on your first date or, to the place where you had the most fun at, or try doing something with her that she will never forget
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    May 6, 2012, 03:51 AM
    Has she recovered from her illness or is it still affecting her? Depending on how she is feeling emotionally and physically, there may not be much you can do.

    You can try keeping the spark alive by doing little things to brighten her day or week. Things like giving her a love note, playing her favorite songs, smiling, listening while she vents about the illness or recovery, holding her, etc.

    As hard as it may seem you might need to give her time and space if she asks for it.

    Do not put pressure on her to feel the way you do. What she is currently experiencing may be temporary due to being sick. However, it may be that for her the relationship isn't what she wants.

    You can't make someone love you if they don't. You can show her love and hope that she returns it.
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    May 6, 2012, 08:28 AM
    To be honest if the spark is waning after merely 8 months then you are better off going your separate ways.
    I know it's not what you want to hear, but will be the best thing in the long run.
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    May 6, 2012, 09:27 AM
    But she says she still loves me and I love her
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    May 6, 2012, 10:30 AM
    Lust fades, love grows, and lovey dovey no longer provides that spark. If dating and making love to her mind doesn't get it back, then its gone for good, so have a good time getting in her mind. Don't even worry about lovey dovey for now!
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    May 7, 2012, 10:01 PM
    It sounds like to me she likes drama. Some woman when everything is going good we look for something to be wrong,so it might not be you she could just want. Something Different in the relationship... so I say tell her maybe we need a break things are moving to fast let's take it slow so we don't bore each other.
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    May 8, 2012, 04:48 PM
    Thank you all for responding we have talked things through and our relationship is doing great
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    May 8, 2012, 04:53 PM
    If she has lost interest in her then it is time to move on, sometimes relationships just fade away, especially if they are not nurtured from the beginning. There will be other ones. Now if you are wondering how to fix it, well you need to remind her why is lucky to have you, exceed at what you do in front of her and she will admire you as she did in the past.

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