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    Copperhead6 Posts: 132, Reputation: 51
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    Jul 5, 2007, 03:40 PM
    Texting ma ex
    Do you guys think that it is weird that I can't stop contacting my ex after freaking 8 months. I will go up to two weeks without talking to her and then I'll send her a text message or something. I still think about her a good bit but I never call her. Usually if I write her I will immediately think it was a bad idea and wish I hadn't sent anything and then tell myself that I won't do it again but then a week and a half later, there I am, saying hello yet again. How do I get away from doing this?
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    Jul 5, 2007, 04:43 PM
    Its not weird, but you do need to exersise self control. I know the feeling. You get that anxiety and want to text or call. You obsess about it and try to shake it off. I would suggest calling someone when you get anxious like that and talking to them about your feelings. Call a friend that will talk you out of texting her. Does she respond when you text her?
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    Jul 5, 2007, 05:00 PM
    You only need to stop texing her if you want to stop texing her, if you would like to continue and keep her as a friend, then, why stop?
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    Jul 5, 2007, 10:55 PM
    I really have no intention of being her friend. I'll just have a moment of weakness and then text her and I'll usually regret it within five minutes of it. She'll usually text back and wel'll make small talk as long as I don't talk about anything serious. I feel like Im getting over her but I can't figure out why I can do so well 99. 7% of the time and then one thing goes wrong, say with the girl I'm dating and there I am firing off a text message to the ex. I know she still cares about me but I know she doesn't want to be with me. I haven't even been able to make it three weeks without seeing if she would contact me. I go days on end without firing off that text then in a couple of minutes of weakness, there is goes. Oh well, I just wish I wouldn't allow my mind to fall into these temporary lapses so I can completely move on!!
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    Jul 5, 2007, 11:08 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Copperhead6
    do you guys think that it is weird that I can't stop contacting my ex after freaking 8 months. I will go up to two weeks without talking to her and then I'll send her a text message or something. I still think about her a good bit but I never call her. Usually if I write her I will immediately think it was a bad idea and wish I hadnt sent anything and then tell myself that I won't do it again but then a week and a half later, there i am, saying hello yet again. How do I get away from doing this?
    Do not let her slip away because you are scared! Stay strong! I have this same prob and it sucks!! Try talking to her about it!! And you need to think to yourself if you want her in your life than do not let her get away
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    Jul 6, 2007, 06:57 AM
    No, it's done. It takes two to tango. I'm dating a good girl now anyway. The ex left, I want her completely gone from my mind and she is, I just have tiny lapses. Oh well, it will be a good while before I hollar at her again. Each time I hope is the last time.
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    Jul 6, 2007, 07:08 AM
    Copperhead... I love how in your last post you wrote "No, it's done" in response to the post before yours. It shows you don't want anyone to give you false hope. It shows that even though you have those tiny lapses, you are still sure that whatever you two had, is now over. It shows that you have somewhat moved on. If you girl finds out what you are doing, you can lose her forever too. Be careful with this. This started many problems for me. But then again that wasn't half the problems with my relationship. So after 3 weeks you get weak and then you find yourself texting and then you fulfill yourself and you are good for another 3 weeks. Perhaps your mind is used to these actions. Next time wait a month and a half... And find something else to give you that boost. Soon enough, you won't be contacting at all. Good luck my friend!
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    Jul 6, 2007, 07:13 AM
    Yea I know, its kind of weird because I'll be fine, but the moment I send that text I immediately find myself waiting for her response and once again I have allowed myself to be in a vulnerable position to her which I want to avoid at all cost. Although I will admit that I usually do feel kind of pumped up when I am the one that does not respond to her text and just leave her hanging. Usually I can tell it gets her thinking, but it does not help me getting over her to be hung up on it so I would like to think all that stuff is pointless. Lol
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    Jul 6, 2007, 12:18 PM
    Many times it the shadowy remnants of the old habit of intimacy and communication that compels you like some pulse to put down your better judgment and cave in to the immediacy of the feeling at the moment. Stay conscious, stay strong, stay in control. The only true indication of hope occurs if and when she contacts you. Otherwise it is just blowing hot air into a dead body.
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    Jul 6, 2007, 12:46 PM
    The best way to deal with "text addiction" is to write them and put them in the drafts folder.

    Every once in a while send one... But look hard for another woman to text. Even if you do not love her... you are still Jones'n for your Ex and the little hits make you feel good, but will only hurt you more in the end.

    Women don't like "peckers"... you know... tap.. tap... peck.. peck...
    They like guys that are a bit too busy. And a bit hard to slow down.
    Tesxting send the message that you are not an alpha male.
    BEWARE.. Women pursue what they want. Silence is more persuasive than anything.
    Doing less is doing more.

    Hang in there.

    I, too, have been bitten by a love bug, and it is hard to control sometimes...

    Cheers.

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    Jul 6, 2007, 12:53 PM
    I have gotten over things in the past. The best way was? Well... simple, time! No contact to helped a great deal. Did not mean I still not think about them now and again and wished them well. Does not mean I wouldn't mind hooking up again.

    If you have her number then delete it? Or block it. If you feel like texting her do something like go to the gym or a run every time you feel like it. At times we are alone, then we feel down, but its true - we are not alone at all.
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    Jul 6, 2007, 01:03 PM
    Yea, I'm good right now about contact, I'm going to meet the girls parents I've been dating this weekend which is like two hours away so that will be great. I couldn't care less about the ex when I'm with the new girl lol. There's really no point in taking that phone number out of my phone because the digits are burned into my brain haha

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