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    Aug 14, 2010, 01:03 AM
    I need to talk to someone about my problems
    I am just getting out of a relationship and I cannot get past the fact that my son's mother does not want to be with me anymore and she has already started talking to someone new and has been for a while I have a feeling. We had been together for 5 years and I never really knew if I was in love or not but I feel like I am now! We were so hateful towards each other at times and my son saw it but I just want to be able to move on! This happened over two weeks ago that we broke up but we still live together. I am trying to get a new place to live but I have no license so I need to stay close but I don't think I can handle seeing her with another guy and the guy she is talking to now I thought was my friend but I guess not! I get so mad and I want to see her hurt for the rest of her life! Will I ever get over this?
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    Aug 14, 2010, 04:44 AM

    I highly suggest you find your own place to stay, and accept her decision. Geez guy, after 5 years, and you didn't know how you felt, now you do? Sorry, to little, to late, and she is no longer your problem. Where, and when you move is.

    Got any friends that will help you out?
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    Aug 14, 2010, 05:05 AM

    You didn't know if you loved her for 5 years but you think you do now. You then say that you want to see her hurt for the rest of her life. Sorry but that is not love.

    It sounds like possesiveness and jealousy not love. A case of I didn't really want her but I don't want her to be happy with anyone else.

    You say that she is the mother of your son. For your son's sake you need to work on these negative feelings. Please consider getting some counselling so that you can move forward, allow your ex to move on also, and be there for your child. You need to do what you can to find a place of your own, this can't be healthy for any of you.
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    Aug 14, 2010, 05:21 AM

    Don't you have some family or friends that you can bunk with for a while?
    You really need to leave NOW.

    If you couldn't decide whether you loved her after 5 years, then it's a pretty good bet that you never loved her and still don't. Sometimes mates just become "habits" and as you know "habits" are hard to break.

    Move on and let her find someone that will treat her well and who actually loves her.
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    Aug 14, 2010, 05:28 AM

    I just wanted to expand on QLP's point about your relationship with your soon to be ex.

    Even if you can't stand the sight of each other, remember that a child does better with interaction from Both parents
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    And the child loves you both .

    Seeing you be hateful and rude to each other is going to be a detriment to how the child learns what a parent is.

    Remain dignified and polite for the child's benefit.
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