My situation involves my 2 children. (3years old and 6months).. Back in sept me and my now ex started argueing a lot, everything set him off and he shut down on me. Oct came he stared becoming more distanct I was broken also dealing with sevier depression(baby blues). I know we were fighting but without any warning he stopped coming home. I called him only to find out he changed his number. I was trying everything to make it work. So one day he came over in Oct. acting weird we were talking and he was wearing a turtle neck (he never wears them) after awhile of talking I finally saw a hickey on his neck. I told him "I couldn't take his cheating and I was done with the relationship".. Wks pasted and I guess we were still talking and trynna make it work(being that he was my first everything, and we were togther for 12 years). I went out and hooked up with a friend, the next day he had kind of heard I was with someone before I had the chance to be straight with him(even though we were I guess split but still talking I felt it was something he needed to know).. We talked more and more then were getting along things were looking good then one day he just packed up and left, he started talking about child support. I went with it, but deep down I still wanted US I believed he just needed time to himself. It became world war 3 after he left many hurt things were said and done on both ends, his family got involved. I had to change my cell number due to his family calling and texting. His calls became no more not even to check on our kids. Christams came he didn't show or call(hasn't seen our kids in over 2 months). I then I found out he was seeing someone even while we were together I believe they are still together. But 4 weeks ago I broke and told him I want our family back. He laughed and said he hated me and never loved me and nothing good has good has come out of our relationship. Even though he's seeing someone I want my family back, I feel like its his family and his girlfriend brain washing him. But after this all I want my family back, what can I do? (Oh I forgot to add he become violent and hit me a few time, that was the first time I have ever seen him like that. Is there anything I can do? Because even though I'm hurt I still believe in us and what we had.

Are you serious? He was cheating on you, was violent with you and left you and the kids and you still want him back?
Get some counseling to help you deal with this split so you can move on with your life. You don't need this and neither do your kids.

I see you're point and I understand that he was in the wrong. I guess I want my kids to have the family/home I grew up with. Biological mother, father and kids. Up until he got a second job we were OK. To this day he still fights but its less, its his mom that keeps getting involved and making the situation worse, he will get to a point were he will be OK, then the next a told different person. The person he has become in the last 6 months I do not know... Reading over my story and I'm thinking I sound so stupid to want him back.

This guy does not seem to care about you or your children. I would not even want him back after the way he has disrespected you.Get some counseling to help you get through this. This is not a guy you want back in your life.