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loveme716 · Mar 5, 2009, 10:36 PM

My boyfriend and I are going threw a really tough time rightnow. He just got clean from substance abuse and has been doing great but the problem is he moved into a halfway house where the director is CRAZY! She does things that directors should not do for example take his phone away, ground him, is constantley yelling at him etc. She even tries to control me! And she threatens to send him to jail all the time and I think he is scared to leave because of that and I'm scared for him to! She will also make things up and tell either one of us to get us into fights! I mean who does that. I just don't know what to do this is supposed to be a happy time, please help!

artlady · Mar 5, 2009, 10:52 PM

She must have a boss.If you have complaints that you can prove,you need to go over her head and speak to her superior.

talaniman · Mar 6, 2009, 01:16 PM

Being in a half way house isn't supposed to be a happy time, its a healing time, so back off, and let your man do what it takes to heal.

Relationships are high on the list of reasons for relapsing so keep your distance.

When his recovery is on solid ground, then that's when it's a happy time, not before.

Survivor07 · Mar 6, 2009, 08:46 PM

A half-way house means he has one foot in jail. If he wants both feet out, then he is going to have to follow the rules.

Like Artlady said, if you have proof that the director is out of line, report her.

"He just got clean" If that's the case, he still has a long road ahead.

You'd be doing him a favor by assuring him of your love/support, but I agree with Tal. Keep your distance.

You're only half-way to happy.