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    Sep 22, 2012, 02:20 AM
    So so hurt.
    Ok it's a really long story...

    In April my fiancé left me to go back to his ex (who left him before after 3 years and broke his heart and they had a really bad relationship before, they fought all the time and they were basically over for a year before she got the courage to walk away). We were together for nearly 3 years and have a gorgeous little boy together and were booked to get married in August :( so this destroyed me!!

    When he left he said it's because he was still in love with her and I respected that I was broken hearted but I never begged him to stay and I've not once tried to get him back or told him I miss him or still love him (I still do very much). Well since he's left he's been a nightmare towards me, all Ive done is try and set up regular contact with our 2 year old and he's been so difficult! Hes barely seen him. He'll see him once a week or a few weeks then she will kick off and he stops! She has told me that she wants nothing to do with our son and she's not happy that he has a child, (I don't allow her to meet my baby after her attitude towards him, I don't trust her). I've been told on loads of occasions that he's miserable and they fight and she's really aggressive with him. I don't understand why he's still there.

    We were so chilled and happy! Had a few rows but normal stuff never anything big! Well I found out yesterday that they are getting married next Saturday! I'm gutted really, why so soon? Surely they can wait and plan like normal people. They literally booked it last week. I don't understand!! Did I mean nothing to him? Why is she so against me when I've done nothing but be respectful of their relationship! I never text unless I absolutely have to (which is sometimes once a month) and never call. At least with a text I have proof of what I've said. When I have rang him to talk about out son he rings her and tells her I've been trying to chat him up!! I swear I haven't done anything like that I have more pride! Why does he lie?

    Then she rings me shouting and screaming that its pathetic and I need to leave him alone etc... It baffles me!! Also he's spoke to my grandad a few months ago telling him that he doesn't speak me as much as he wants and that his girlfriend does his head in and that she goes mental if I contact him or if he even mentions his son in her presence! She's a very jealous person. He's had to stop seeing his female friends and going out with mates! I never stopped any of it, I was trusting...

    What do I do? I'm so confused, I still love him... Do you thinks he's going to regret this? Has he lost his mind?

    LOL, all his mates hate her and they say I'm 1000 times better in looks and personality. Please I need advice. Oh and please don't be mean, I honestly haven't tried to hurt their relationship. I just want peoples opinion on the situation!

    Thank you xx

    I just don't understand why he left me for his horrible ex!
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    Sep 22, 2012, 05:00 AM
    Who knows what he is thinking? Maybe he is just immature and thinks that every time something isn't perfect, his past was perfect. Maybe she is dragging him into a quick marriage and he likes being dragged. Maybe there is some spark there. We aren't there!

    Your job is to go to Family Court and start getting child support. I just love how many millions of 'fiances' exist out there, with babies. Now you have none of the protection of marriage. So you need to go to COURT to get what his paternity requires of him. I can't help you with the relationship with her. Some people are possessive and jealous and others aren't.
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    Sep 22, 2012, 01:39 PM
    Sorry you don't understand this idiot, and are hurt by his actions but for now leave them alone and get child support through the courts.

    Chalk this up to insanity, and keep your child AWAY from it!

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