So Saturday I talk to me girlfriend as like any other day, like she calls and talks to me while she walks to the store for food because she didn't want to feel alone going there. We both have plans for the night to go out and have fun. Keep in mind now we are in a LDR and have been together 9 months. We even made it through deployment with isn't something most girls can handle.

After getting back I go see her for 3 days and it was amazing as most of our time together is. The happiness is still there, and my birthday was like 6 days after I left. She had fun drinking the other weekend and text me sweet and loving stuff including "cant wait to have a family with you". Lovely dove and happy was usual.

Then that Saturday night I get a text... "I love you" but in drunk writing LOL, then 3 hour later after replying "I love you to baby are you having fun", I get "yes, Michael I think we need to talk". I was instantly pissed, but keep it to myself and told her "ok". She keep asking "what" and "what do you mean" to things I said like okay take your space then. Then she stopped, and I turned off the phone to stop from texting her.

The next day I get text from her and I ignoring it. She said "hi what's going on, talk to me" and "I'll be waiting for your text, or call when you want to talk to me"... The opposite of what she asked for. I text her the next day "hey" and then what did you want to talk about.. She says "why you are talking about breaking up" I told her she wanted to take a break . She said she was worried about me cause we didn't talk and it couldn't have been serious cause we were drinking which I hadn't been at the time. She said I didn't know what she was feeling and I told her to tell me. She said she wants us to work and but for some reason, for her it was feeling like she had to be in a relationship and it was not fun.

I told her she needs to communicate with me when things start feeling that way. She called and begged that we were not breaking up and that she loves me and still wants to be with me of course. We talked about the break she wanted but I thought was done when we talked, because we were communicating about what and how we felt. Well the next day I say hey and good morning, and I continued with work for the day and nothing back, then I texted her something funny and said what's up. She replied laughing but remember I wasn't going to talk to you?. I just said okay I'll leave yeah alone. She said she was doing homework and to cheer up :) I'll talk to you this week. (I didn't know I was sad)... But "okay :) I said ill talk to you later".

So she still wanted to have a break but didn't mention how long or other terms other than I'll talk to you this week. I'm just thinking she needs to think stuff out for herself and needs time and space to do. I know its some "us" stuff but for most of our relationship its been lovely dovey and she every cries when I leave her and I know how much of a place I have in her heart, her love isn't doubtable.

The other thing is this is her 2nd semester and she has two jobs and still have her social life as well.

My question is what to do?

When she contacts me how should I be?

What if she needs more time? If so should we discuss the terms?

I know better than to contact her first. And if one of her terms is hanging out with other guys I need to drop her then and there. (unlike for her character but just throwing that in there.)

What should I let her know if she wants more time and if the break end what should I let her know?

And for me what I need to do to keep her wanting me? If I breakup with her I know she would expect it and I think she might feel like she messed up and want to come back to me afterward.

Or this might just be the little bit of time to reorganize her she and adjust to this new life schedule she has now.


Edited/T

I think you may have gotten a bit carried away, and its probably best to stay cool, and calm and don't make this a big deal, as letting her adjust to her situation may have been a great gut feeling to follow. Just stay upbeat and casual, and supportive with out the insecure attitude, or a thousand questions about US. And no not initiating any contact is not a great way of cultivating a bond, just not everyday or worse twice a day.

I think that only after 9 months you are paying attention less, and reacting more. Just chill, especially when she is out of sorts (drunk, hung over, or just wacky), never take it personally, she may be on her period or something. Never know with females, but patience is a virtue, and a choice, and a great idea at this point.