I think I am potentially smothering my girlfriend. We have been together for 3.5 years and have lived together for about 2.5, owning a condo together. About two weeks ago we had an (intoxicated) fight about me not feeling like I was getting enough attention. The same thing happened the next day as well. My girlfriend has always had friends with close boyfriends and husbands and recently made a good friend that is not in a committed relationship. Through conversation I have learned that she has felt bad doing things without me in the past and that has made her unhappy so now she is going to do those things. Also, that she feels that my life revolves around only her (also probably true) and that it puts a lot of stress on her to be the sole source of my hapiness. I believe that I have inadvertently made her feel that way and over the past two weeks have behaved irrationally as a result. I think it is on me to learn that being apart is good not bad. I just want us to be happy together; whatever that takes.

I do not want to ruin what we have built together because I cannot listen to what she wants and give it to her.
Does this sound like the definition of smothering?
Any advice on how to takes steps to make her feel better and more comfortable about girls time?

I have picked up league soccer again and have reconnected with some friends and begun to make plans with them as well. Are these good steps to take.

Thank you in advance for any help.