[jangson]

For the few month ago, I met a gal while I participated table tennis competition. She is a incharge person of this competition. So, since that day, I decide to know more about this gal.

After the competition, we also got meet each other. Date her for dinner, training table tennis together, and also purposely attend to her table tennis competition while I was busying that day. I know that,this kind of action not big deal. But the sad things, is she can't feel that I coming because of her.

After several weeks, her birthday coming,I decide to celebrate with her at outside without any disturbing of her or my friends. That night, I plan to tell her that I like her so much and hope that she can be my girl friend... However, finally I din have the courage to show my love to her. I scare I will lose everythings if she really rejected me.

Until I sent her back home, I still not dare to say out a word. After she entered her house,I regret why so stupid not dared to say out.. at that time, I turn back my vehicle, go back to her house, and calling her...

I phone to her, and in the phone I tell her that I like her and hope that she will be my girl friend.. she was shocked from her voice that she reply me in the phone... after that she said that we were not knowing well, and it was too fast if start this relationship, and she hope that I can give her sometimes to think about that... she say after exams just give me the appropriate answer.

For her side, it was hard too at the exam time think this kind of love things... then I promised what she said.

After few weeks, her exam is over, I try to contact her through msn, sms, and even call her, but she never bother me anymore... just like scared till ignoring me... So, I think maybe she not yet prepared well and try not to call her or message her for a periods, I think things will be better. However, she not even reply me anymore...

What should I do now??

[Skell]

You should slow down and give her some space. It sounds like you are smothering her and coming onto her a little to hard.

Why not just continue to be friends with her and see where it takes you. There is no need to profess your love to her. That is too much for people to take.

So just leave her be for a while. She asked you for some time to think so give it to her. No more calls, MSN, emails, sms etc.

Wait for her to contact you now. And when / if she does, you don't need to tell her you love her. Just take it slow and give yourself time for the relationship to develop. Don't forece things.

I hope you understand my answer as English doesn't seem to be your first language. Write back if you didn't understand anything I have said.

Good luck!