[aleshas]

Well My Ex Left Me 9 Months Pregnant And I Don't Know If I Can Live Without Him. I Love This Man With My Whole Heart. I Did Everything For Him, I Washed His Cloths, I Cooked, I Cleaned. He Left Me A Week And A Half Ago For This Other Female He Got Pregnant Now I Don't Know What To Do. Well We Had An Apartment Together And He Still Lives There But The Apartment Is In My Name. I Am Trying To Get My Name Off The Lease Because He Has Moved The Other Female And Her 3 Kids In. Do You Think I Should Give Up On This Relationship Or Just Wait Forhim To Come Around?

[Bluerose]

Sweetie, I'm sorry. I wish I knew what to tell you. I think you should look at cancelling the lease in case they are not keeping up the rent payments and you may be held responsible for that as well as any damage done to the property. It's only been a very short time, he might see sense - he might not. I think you must decide whether you want to play the 'waiting game'. Good luck. No matter how it turns out, take care of yourself.

[SouthernBelle06]

So he's cheated on you, left you for another woman that he also got pregnant, moved her and her three other kids into an apartment that has your name on the lease and you want to wait for him and get him back? Yes I certainly think that you should give up on the relationship but you have more important things to worry about right now.

I think that you did too much for him with the cooking and cleaning, etc. and he took you for granted (as a lot of people tend to do). Don't put other people's needs ahead of your own because they are important too. Learn this lesson for the future and don't bend over backwards for your future partners because it doesn't get as appreciated as you might think. You need to learn some "healthy selfishness" because it gains you some respect.

But that aside, do you really need this kind of stress and emotional pain (fighting with another pregnant woman over him) when you are getting ready to give birth? What a complete jerk he is! This makes me angry! I feel sorry for the new girlfriend as well. I don't think that she is walking into an enviable situation.

I think that although you are hurting emotionally (and understandably so), your focus should be on you and the baby right now. I agree with Rose too. Get your name off the lease ASAP. The rent payments will fall on you if they don't make the payments. You don't need that kind of stress right now.

I think that what part of the problem really is here is that you are very emotional right now with the pregnancy and are scared to do this on your own. I don't know your situation. Do you have family that you can live with who will help you out? Do you have a good job? I think you just may have the fantasy of a "perfect family" situation with him on your mind now due to the pending birth and are not looking at reality of how he has treated you. That's understandable.

If you are doing this on your own, there are several organizations and agencies in your town that can provide assistance to you for your medical bills, food for you and the baby, childcare assistance, and even affordable housing. There are organizations that can even help you further your education if you need a better job. Again I don't know your situation. Speak with the staff and social services at the hospital when you give birth. Tell them of your situation if you need help. You don't have to be so scared that you settle for and are relying on this jerk for everything.

I know that you have to deal with him because he is the father of your baby, but there is help available if you need it. All the best to you.

[JoeCanada76]

OMG,

Uhm it is so obvious. What do you think the answer is?

Of course, move on.

He cheated. Your pregnant. He got another girl pregnant. Now he is moving this lady in.

If that is not a wake up call, I do not know what is. He does not love you.

You might think you love him but in all honesty you have been living in fantasy world. This is not good for you.

Joe