[Rusty1987]

I've been with this guy for nearly 7 months now and he's not a virgin and I am. When we first started dating he was pretty physical and also really respectful.. he doesn't want to push me to have sex. So, like a month ago I told him it would be fine if we did decide to have sex and that he wasn't pressuring me; it was my choice. I thought he would be fine with that, but it seemed to totally freak him out or something! After I asked he suddenly stopped doing ANYTHING physical with me. He will only kiss me now and we used to fool around all the time. I've even tried to get him, and he always seems turned on and will start and just when I get my hopes up, he suddenly makes some lame excuse ( like he has work to finish or he's tired) and just gets up and leaves me. I feel absolutley horrible when he does this. I don't know how to read this action! He did tell me he doesn't want to have sex with me yet, which is fine. But that doesn't mean that he has to stop everything does it? I'm not lying when I say I have needs, and I thought he did, but where did they go? I can't tell if this means that he's just not into me anymore, or if he's super into me and wants to save it, or if he's thinking I'm not good. I really don't know! He's been with other women and was pretty physical with them by my understanding. I just don't know how to read this. It makes me feel rather hurt, like seeing me naked is horrible or something. We have gotten closer on other levels though too. Any advice, thoughts? Thanks!

[alkalineangel]

It seems to me that either he wasn't completely honest, and doesn't have as much experience and is now unsure of himself... or that it was all the thrill of the catch, and now that you have succomed, it isn't as thrilling to him... I would be open with him. Communication is the key to a good sexual relationship, or any relationship for that matter. Good luck!