[Confused3012]

Im seeing a married man. She found out about us. He wants to rebuild the broken trust with his wife. I agree but only if he tells her the whole truth. Or I will. Thoughts? What would you do?

[J_9]

Stay out of it. You already are a home wrecker. His relationship with his wife is none of your business.

I hope there are no children.

[talaniman]

If you agree he needs to rebuild trust with his wife, then you leave this married man alone and keep your damn mouth shut, and stay out of his business, and life, forever, no matter what!!

[Cat1864]

Im seeing a married man. She found out about us. He wants to rebuild the broken trust with his wife. I agree but only if he tells her the whole truth. Or I will. Thoughts? What would you do?

You need to walk away. Let him and his wife rebuild their lives while you move forward with your own.

It shouldn't matter to you what he tells her. It should no longer be your business.

To be blunt, the moment you knew he was married you should have walked away. Have more respect for yourself than to allow yourself to be use by someone who doesn't know what he wants and can't take care of his own business in a proper manner.

[joypulv]

You have no right to agree or disagree. None, none, none!
Ditto to STAY OUT OF IT. Yes, I'm shouting.
Not only is it none of your business, but the 'whole truth' is very subjective. Your truth could be damaging. And your notion of truth won't be the same as his, and how it's worded, how it's done, is PERSONAL.
UGH

[tickle]

If you truly cared about him, you wouldn't even consider talking to his wife. So your games are over and done with and maybe you have learned a lesson or two. Just stay out of it and let him rebuild what he has lost.

You are the worst o predator.

[Jake2008]

You have no business, as 'the other woman', to insist on the 'truth' being told to his wife, because you of all people are the least trustworthy of all.

I hope there aren't any children involved in the mess you created with this man.

[dontknownuthin]

What do you do? Move on, stop contacting him and respect his marriage vows. Maybe get some counseling to figure out why you would disrespect another woman that way, why you would sell yourself so short as to be willing to be involved with someone who has to hide you and only give you the lesser part of his life, and how you would feel if you married someone - MARRIED THEM - and some other woman was sleeping with him. I'm sure he had a big story about how she was terrible, didn't meet his needs, he really loved you, you were so much prettier - he was probably going to leave her. Blah, blah, blah. He's just a cheater.

As for her knowing the whole truth, why? She knows her husband cheated and does not need to be tortured with the details. Leave the woman alone and get the F out of her way in her marriage. They might be able to fix it - he might learn something. Or they might end up falling apart. In any event, learn this - start a relationship with someone who's married, guess what he's going to do when he later marries you? Yep - when you are no longer new and bright like a shiny penny - maybe have a few extra pounds from having his baby, or you run into financial problems, or you get pissed off at him for something - he's going to go find that new love again with someone else. Would you want to sit and have coffee and hear her difficult feelings and have you teach you about the man who you are married to and have children with, or would you find that a little nervy?

[ma0641]

Origin: This saying is based on lines from The Mourning Bride by William Congreve (1670-1729):

Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned,
Nor hell a fury like a woman scorned.

[J_9]

Go ahead. Tell her your thoughts. I bet you will regret that decision once she is through with you.

I know you don't want to hear this, but you are a home wrecker. Once you found out he was married you should have ended it, but women like you have no shame.