[emz1991]

Ok, this is going to sound really confusing. I met this guy at work a year ago and we got together. I knew when I got with him about his serious baggage (a wife and two children) but I really liked him so gave it a chance. On top of this he is 35 years old (14 years older than me). He had split from his wife at the time but a few months ago I found out he had been sending her dirty messages. I confronted him and asked if he wanted to get back with her, he said no. After a rough patch I forgave him and tried to move on but ever since I have been insecure and worried he's up to something.

Things were OK up until recent arguments over silly things. He then told me that he wasn't happy with things and split up with me (few days ago) but is now saying he wants "weeks" of space to figure out his feelings for me. He says he still loves me and misses me so I don't understand why he wants space. I don't know what to do because I do love him even though he's hurt me =(. I’m scared that whilst waiting about for two weeks for him to make a decision he will just decide he doesn't want me anyway. I really love him =( help

[talaniman]

I knew when I got with him about his serious baggage (a wife and two children) but I really liked him so gave it a chance. On top of this he is 35 years old (14 years older than me).

That's all needed to read so my question is why give your heart to a married coworker with kids and problems, and not expect confusion. You have no choice but to do as he asked because he and his wife have MUCH unfinished business. That's why he needs more than space!!

I mean a girlfriend of a year(?), compared to a wife and baby mama of who knows how many years? That's a no brainer, and you got him through a rough patch but now he knows he has to handle his business at home.

You NEVER should have gotten involved so deeply... NEVER!! What did you really expect?

[emz1991]

Ok, so maybe I shouldn't of git involved, but he left the relationship with her and asked for a divorce because apparently she had a lot if problems and wasn't making him happy either. I've asked him if he wants her back cause usually he is so honest and just says no and that he's still going ahead with the divorce. I didn't expect to meet him and for it to happen but sometimes things just do. Why is he still texting me then and saying that he still wants me in his life even if not as partners?

[emz1991]

Got*

[emz1991]

They live separately as apparently when they lived together they did each others heads in =/