[Dodgseb]

I'm 8 months pregnant and feel so alone, unwanted, not cared for, ugly, and like I don't mean anything to him.

My baby daddy wanted me to have a abortion when I told him I was pregnant, I guess he finally got over it and realized I was serious about keeping the baby.

He has left me twice since I've been pregnant, he comes back after a few days. But after him leaving now I don't believe he'll stay. Every time he leaves its some how my fault even though I treat him so good. I'm always the one begging him to come back. He never says sorry.

He doesn't do anything for me. I wait on him and keep our room clean and made while he plays video games when he's here.

He doesn't talk much or at all about the baby or my pregnancy. He says I complain a lot and that the pain I have is over exaggerated. When we go to doctor visits he stays on the phone and doesn't pay attention to anything. Same way when we go to the hospital. He acts like he doesn't care or want to be there. He has told me before I make up a lot of the things I say wrong with me in my head and when there is a problem we don't need to tell the doctor or run to the hospital when the doctor tells us to. I wish I could say he acts exited about the ultrasounds but no, it's the same way.

He goes out and does whatever he wants and all I do is sit at home and wait for him to come back. I don't think he wants to take me out or have me tag along with anything. Because I say I want to go with him or I want to go somewhere together and nothing ever happens. He has never called me pretty, beautiful, sexy ex. Threw out our whole relationship. He makes fun of the way I look sometimes now that I'm pregnant. I think he is just kidding but sometimes it really doesn't seem that way. I've told him I want us to hang out more but it doesn't happen.

He is a hard person to talk to, he gets mad very easily and likes to act smartelic. He can't ever just see that I need him to cry out to and be there for me. He doesn't take my feelings into consideration when dealing with anything.

He makes time for his friends but not for me. Then he complains that all I do is sit around. I don't want to go out with anyone else but him so what else am I suppose to do then stay home?

He smokes and drinks and knows I don't like it but that doesn't stop him.
I honestly don't think he cares about me and the baby at all or that he wants us. I mean would you act this way if you did?

I really don't want to lose him, I love him and me and the baby need him. He makes me happy at times but I don't like that I spend 24/7 worrying about him and trying to keep him happy when he acts like he couldn't care less about me. I want us 3 as a family forever. He says he wants that also for right now but you can't make someone stay if they aren't happy.

I have so many doubts because I feel like I can't rely on him, he always lets me down or disappoints me. I never want the baby to feel this way.

I want him to be here for me, I want him to be supportive, act like he cares, treat me good, not talk down to me, make me feel pretty, comfort me, help me... I want him to just show me he still loves and wants me :(

What am I suppose to do? Help, please.

32 weeks and 3 days pregnant

[Zea]

You probably will have to leave him, at some point, if he does not change.
The only way to deal with this is by communicating, if he is the type who does not likes to listen than you should see a professional, if he does not agree than you should leave him.
Also, you should feel beautiful the way you are; especially, now because when you are pregnant you carry another human life inside you, it is a precious moment that you should appreciate.
I really hope that he stops smoking around you, I am sure that you realize cigarette smoke is harmful for your unborn baby. Even if he is not that involved with you he should at least make himself more helpful and less harmful to the people around him.

[Fr_Chuck]

You ended up getting pregnant with a bad choice, he does not sound like a good boyfriend and even less as a good father.

Why you let him come back is what I don't understand.

You need to set some rules up and show him the door if he does not follow it

[joypulv]

You don't say how old you both are, but you both sound VERY young.
And when you say 'keep your room clean' it sounds like you are living with a parent??

It is very, very sad that countless young women think that having a baby will keep their man.
I don't know what else to say.
You made a choice and now you have someone to be responsible for for the next 18 years, and you need to accept the fact that the child's father may be around, he may not, he may drift away and come back when he's older, he may not. Whether you look pretty to him is a petty worry at this point. Your concerns are for your child and how you will be a good parent. Looks fade anyway. Love is about mutual respect, compromise, and sharing responsibility. And it takes TIME.