[PUZZL3D]

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, and I am completely still in love with him, I want to see him all the time, I want to have a future with him, we have talked about it, and been through a LOT of.. and we are still standing here together, except, not so much together as he has now decided that we should have a break, I don't want to.
Things have been bumpy for the past couple of months, but through those months I have done nothing but declare my love for him, make food for him, scratch his back, run him a bath after work, show him affection and so on.. but he just doesn't want to know? I'm a lover, I give love to everyone and want love back, but he just isn't that into showing affection due to previous relationship (which I understand and I have eased him back into being affectionate) but now were suddenly on a break because he thinks I don't trust him? He thinks I don't trust him because I get upset that after work, he goes out with his friends from the moment he finishes work at 6, until 11 or 12 and night? Then expects to come back home to me.. this happens almost every single day and I just don't see him anymore because I've stopped being his bed to go home to. We make plans and he cancels, makes plans with his friends and ignores me? I just don't know what to do... I'm losing my mind, I see my own friends whilst he see's his, and I've joined the gym and some classes to keep my mind of things at the moment but all I want is some love.
We had a huge talk before the break and he still insists he has undying love for me but its best if we part for a week just to clear our heads of the mess that's been going on, and getting back together to a clean slate and slowly work our way back up to trust, love and spending time together. I'm unsure of where I stand, I feel like the ground is being pulled away from me and I'm hanging on for dear life. Thanks for any replies.. sincerely ConfusedGirlfriend

[bc420]

From experience, girl, it sounds like there is someone else but he's too big of a wimp to tell you the truth. That and he probably does really love you and doesn't want to hurt you. My boyfriend of ten years did the same thing. But he was only gentle about it for a couple of months and then he just started being a and really mean. It was awful. Don't let it get to that, and don't be a doormat. If you pull away and act like it's not even bothering you (even if it's not true in the slightest), he's going to notice and it will likely make him look at you differently. But if he knows that he can go out every night, say he wants a break, etc... but you'll still be there to make him dinner, baths, rub his back and all that - nothing will change and he's going to end up using you. You'll become "the sure thing" and he'll feel less and less guilty about whatever he's doing.

I know it sucks, but seriously try to pull away. Make plans with friends, "forget" to call him if you're supposed to, make him see you're an independent woman who would be just fine without him.

[tsila1777]

I agree with bc420. He is using you, and having his fun elsewhere. You need to accept this and move on with your life. One sided love, no matter how strong yours is for him, will never make you happy. I'm sorry, I know it's got to hurt, but the longer you let him get away with this behavior the worse it will hurt in end. Be good to yourself and lean on your friends, you can do this. Cut him loose for good.