[Lola92]

It has been 8 weeks since he ended it suddenly and I have been absolutely devastated. We are both 21 and he has just started college but it’s my second year there. I ended all communication thinking I would give him time and space to realize he made a mistake and now that we are both back home for Christmas I figured it would all be good but we went out for a meal last night and he has changed a lot, he seemed to say things that deep down I took to heart but I didn't let this show as he does have a great sense of humor but I wasn't sure if they were jokes with jags kind of thing?

Also when he ended it weeks ago he said he needed some space but that he would definitely want to be together at Christmas then he suddenly changed his mind a few days ago but when I asked him to meet to talk last night he obviously did but we didn't even talk about us, it just seemed awkward. When I asked him to meet he took two days to reply and since last night I texted him and again no reply. He was doing things to make me jealous like showing me a really hot girl he lives with but she has a fiancé so I know that he’s not with her or anything, he also texted her when he was with me.

Basically I feel so confused, with all these mixed signals, I feel like I have been led on for weeks then why would he even agree to meet me and do those things? I know I should just forget about him but it's so hard, I cry at the thought of him all the time and I just don't know how to move on without some actual closure?

[odinn7]

Unfortunately, in this situation, you allowed yourself to be "led on". When someone ends it, you should not sit around and wait on them hoping that they will change their mind.

My guess is that he is playing mind games with you at this point to get back at you for something. Did you do anything to him while you were together? It sounds like he is trying to mess with your head.

Your best bet is to not fall for this stuff and just walk away and don't look back.

[geniegee2003]

Similar thing happened to me many years ago, I used to sit around and wait and hope that my ex would change his mind and suddenly realize that he has made a mistake. It never happened because we were not right for each other, it wasn't until I had gotten over the end of the relationship that I realized this. I saw him once years after the split and I thought "What did i ever see in him?". I'm now in a decent relationship and we have a child together. I met the perfect man for me, you will too but you need to let go of this guy and find that special person who feels the same way about you

[SantasHelper]

I think you should move on and forget this guy, he seems a little immature. Trying to make you jealous is not a normal thing for him to do. I would never do this to any woman, what would I accomplish from it? You will meet another nice man someday. It will be his loss. :)

[talaniman]

The best closure is what you give yourslf by stopping all the torure of false hope that comes from continuing to see him, and waiting for him to give you what you should be giving yourself. Acceptance that this thing has ended.

[Fr_Chuck]

Often men , or women also, will try and be "nice" when they break up, asking for time, or saying some future time. But almost always it is just talk to make the break up less argument and less fighting.

Next no contact is not for making someone miss you or for hoping they will get back together, no contact is to get over them, find someone new and move on.