[hello123321]

Hi there, I have a bit of a confusing situation.. I think it would be a miracle if you knew what I should do ! - Me and my guy had been together since December last year, after 10 months, he broke up with me saying we argued too much etc, me being a woman cried and cried for 2 weeks, then suddenly decided enough is enough and I went out and got with someone else. He found out and came running back, saying he was sorry for how he treated me etc but said he wasn't sure if he loved me. This was 2 months ago, and ever since then we have been seeing each other - he is still saying that he is confused and doesn't know what it going on in his head, but it feels like I am the one to always be making the effort when wanting to meet up - we have had this conversation lots of times and he's understanding but it seems to go in one ear and out the other which then makes me more upset/frustrated. About 2 days ago we had a dinner and dance with all of our friends etc and I said to him how he acted with me that night would prove how he felt - unfortunately I got completely ignored that night.. he doesn't seem to understand how he ignored me but I was crying and crying as I confronted him, and got a little mad and walked off. He got extremely drunk that night and went into town with 2 of my best friends and also his mate. Turned out he kissed (peck on lips) one of my best friends. I found this out and ever since that night he hasn't bothered texting me that much - I had to be the one to text him first on Saturday morning saying I knew about it and he said he was sorry and it was stupid as he was so drunk and there is no attraction there whatsoever! It seems he is saying he is sorry but isn't truly meaning it - I saw him earlier and it feels like he has been really off with me - he didn't tell me his parents were away, he put the face of the photo frame of a photo of us down on the table, he took the photo of me off the front of his phone and in every text since that night he hasn't sent me any X's! I know this sounds silly and petty but it seems that no body can go from one extreme to the other just like that! Surely he should be the one chasing me, not the other way round... I'm so confused on what to do and how to act because I don't want to be too distant trying to get him to chase me that he thinks I'm being moody but at the same time I don't want to be too clingy. PLEASE help - I'm very confused, all of my friends are telling me its stupid because he is blatently just using me for one thing although I've asked him this and time and time again he tries to reassure me its not that... Thank you!

[Vmcmul]

GET RID OF HIM! Babes I spent 7years with a fella like that and am totally over him now but I wish I ha of had the nerve to get shot of him on year 1 lol. Us girlies do silly things and our hormones seem to take control of us! This boyo is NO good. Swear. He will NEVER change! I used to do the whole crying, taking physcos lol, running after my man, having the perfect relationship one min then a complete nightmare the next! And through experience there's nothing worse than someone dictating to you to leave someone and that he's no good ( if your anything like me, it just makes you go back with them to kind of prove a point that he will change) but I wish I had some 1 from the outside giving me advice! This boyo is not for u, it may feel like you love him and can't bare to not be with him and mayb even when he's telling you that he loves you and he's sorry you kind of feel sorry for him or you think oh OK one last change etc but I'm telling you he out while you can! A boy should NEVER make you feel that low, confused, or upset! And although it was only a "peck on the lips" it shouldn't have happened and what was he doing with your friends when you wernt there lose him and consider losing this friend too! Good luck xx

[Alty]

Wow, you really expect him to jump through hoops just to date you. Love isn't something that happens automatically. Most people that date aren't in love. If it's meant to be it happens. It hasn't happened for him, and you continuously harping on him about it, hasn't helped.

Dump him, you're too much work, and he's not willing to put in the effort.