[SHUTTERBUG]

Well I have been engaged to my fiance' for the better part of 18mnths, we have had some issues and I have an issue with trust which I have been working on. Last Wednesday she left me a letter and the Ring in my car at work and left for a conference. The letter basically said that she loved me, will always love me, and went on to say that was Heartbroken to have to make a decsion to end the relationship based upon the concerns we had and her need to be trusted. I tried to call her as I was completely devastated and left her numerous messages proclaiming my love and that I realized the concerns about trust and so forth. Well she called me and I asked her not to leave, she said she loved me and made no promises but said she'd contact me when she got back into town. She did and having asked her to reconsider her decsion she said that she could not , I then told her that I had gone to see a therapist and he explained what was going on, she listened, I then told her all why this was happening that being my trust issue, she listened and soften her tone with me , and then I told how much I loved her, that she is extremely important to me and that I want to grow old with her, I feel that we have so much ahead of us and that we both have a significant emotional investment in this. She said she needed space and that she would need me to be a strong partner, she then said she would call me that night as I was being somewhat emotional at the time... she didn't and has not contacted me since. We work on the same campus and I have been so tempted to call her, but I realize that would be disrespectful, I am seeing my therapist every week, we are making great headway on the trust issue but I really miss her and am living in Limbo land. So to my question how long do I give her space for? Is her asking for space and not contacting me a way of not dealing with me face to face, What should I do??

[Krs]

Why don't you try concentrate on yourself now, work at improving your trust issues as you are already by going to your therapist...
Then see from there.

[talaniman]

Give her what she ask for, and work on your issues of trust.