[Clockwork]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years and four months. I love him very much, and I tell him and show him that I do. But he doesn't. It's like a switch was turned off, he was affectionate in the beginning of the relationship, in the middle of it he would just take my kisses and hugs and give some back, but now... It's like he's tried of it and doesn't want to show affection anymore, like he doesn't care that it affects me in a bad way. I've had trouble talking and opening up to people for a long time, and he knows that, with him I'm able to open up, and sometimes it still gets hardfor me to say what's wrong, and he'll say "we've been dating for two years now hun." I'm really making an effort, and when I finally told him about this, he said its hard for him to kiss me or hug me, and I used the same line on him. If you love someone, you're going to want to show them affection right? He says he doesn't feel anything, that he can't try and express it because it's too hard for him to, that he can't make an effort for me. After that conversation, all the good things that come out of love, is just bull to me. I don't feel the same, but I do still love him very much, my outlook on it just changed, dramatically. Does anyone have advice on how I can make him more affectionate? Because that's all I care about. As long as he shows me love, I wouldn't care about the sex, or if I see him a lot less. I just want him to hold me w

[Magpie95]

Unfortunately, it sounds like your boyfriend has checked out. You can't make people into something they are not. Even if they were like that before, if they have changed... then they have changed. You have to accept people for just where they are in life. Don't make the mistake of thinking you can change a person. It always ends badly. As hard as it seems now, moving on is better for you. You are selling yourself short if you stay with someone who isn't making an effort. He is basically trying to break up without having the courage to do so. It could be depression, but either way, if he is pushing you away there isn't much you can do. Learn from it and move on. There is someone out there that will be better for you. You just have to believe you are worth it. And you are! :)