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    Jul 19, 2012, 01:51 PM
    Fwb not sure what to do
    Lol this is going to be awfully confusing. But here it goes.. I met this guy the first day of training at work and he found me on Facebook and friend requested me. We talked for a week and he told me that he preffered a relationship over a fwb. I said I wasn't looking for anything serious.. Well this was at the beginning of June we hung out... Hooked up.. He made me dinner, bought me Chinese, we went to the movies (we paid for ourselves), he met my father (which to me is a pretty big deal).
    However, I would only go and see him late at night, and usually when I was drunk. There were two instances where I had asked me if I was dating material but I legitametly can't remmber what he said.. Damn alcohol.. Anyway he asked me to come over during the day and I said sure, but I needed to go to Lowe's to get a spare key.. He insisted on taking me.. So we went to Bed Bath and Beyond, and Lowe's and he was being really flirty and holding my hand and stuff. So we get back in the car and I asked him if I was dating material.. And he like yelled at me! He was like "we have different paths in life, you want different things... you said you didn't want a relationship.." It was all directed at me... He got really upset and I don't like when people yell it makes me super uncomfortable.. So we kind of got into a fight I guess. And I posted on Facebook "f you".. And he unfriended me. (Mature I know)..
    SO yadda yadda yadda. We didn't talk for a week. And finally he texted me saying "despite what happend to you want to just come over for sex no cuddles just sex" and I told him that I was sorry for clamming up and that I wasn't sure how to react because he was giving me mixed signals.. He said "Fair enough I got mixed signals from you as well which is why I refused to even try to get close. One minute you seemed intereested, then you'd play hard to get then you'd be cranky I can't deal with that so what do you want to do come over?"... I went over. Just quickly.. Because my d.d had to be home soon...
    So anyway he called me two nights ago to come over because he is leaving for field training. He said somehting about me not hooking up with other guys... I'm not sure if I should wait for him. I want to. I like him. I would like to try and have more with him but I don't know if that is what he wants too. I mean either he does like me and he wants to try dting when he gets back (which is in a month).. Or he's being selfish.. Because friend with benefits aren't exclusive!! So what should I do?>!!
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    Jul 19, 2012, 02:31 PM
    First if you want people to read and understand, we don't care that you had chinese we just need basic facts.

    Let me see if I can sum this up.

    Girl meets man at company training. He finds her on face book ( not hard to do) They chat and go out. A lot of the dating has lots of drinking and being drunk.

    Guy is looking for a girlfriend and a relationship, Girl is looking for sex no relationship.

    They keep having dates and sex.

    Guy gets mad at girl,
    Girl is immature and calls him name on face book
    Guy does the worst sin of all in life, he unfriends the person

    Guy in a week or so, figures out he is not getting any sex and most likely getting >>>>

    Guy calls up girl and is lies and says he is OK with no commitment.

    Girl pretends to believe this

    Guy gets ready to be gone and does not want her having sex with others ( and to be honest with all the STD to share who would want to share a women)

    Girl can not understand why guy does not want her sleeping with others.

    The answer he still wants a committement and a relationship

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