[Heartbroken_in_luv]

Hey my girlfriend and me have been going out for 2 and a half years and in that time funny things have happened.. after a year we went out I played on her with a girl but it was a few kisses.. 1 month later she got drunk and she says a guy kissed her at a party.. but she says she never kissed him back but if your drunk and you know your way home after all the drinking woudnt you be able 2 figure out if your kissing someone or not? And then she played me agen with 2 other guys twice claiming that one of them kissed her in da dark and another time her cousin came over to her house and kissed her but she says she pushed both of them away.. but the time she was drunk she says the kiss was less than 5 minutes.. the thing is it happened while we wer going out for a year and 2 months and she kept it secret till yesterday which was our 2 years and 5 months.. so basically she lied for a year and a half.. and now she wants time away from me.. I also slept with another women while we were on break quite a while ago but I worked it out that it was after she played on me but I neva knew she played on me till I found out yesterday what she had been doing.. I love her lots and want to spend the rest of my life with her but now she says she wants time and she wants to be single and get away from the problems but at times she says she wants to be with me as well and we have talked about marriage and everything and I know she loves me.. im also worried that if we go on break she might enjoy it really well and realise she doesn't need me in her life and move on and leave me heartbroken and still wanting her.. im also worried she might just take off with another guy and might have fun with other guys and might take me back after she's already done everything.. but I really want her and want to be with her.. do I forgive her for lying or give her time or move on or what? Because we are both in our last year of high school and she is in my every class and we sit together in every class and now if we are not together its going to be awfully hard to get over her.. I don't know what to do.. im not a very strong person as well as life is reallyi hard for me at school and home not just with the girlfriend so please guys tell me what I have to do because I'm really heartbroken right now.. thanks guys
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[kp2171]

You are in HS. You are young.

Relationships at this time seem like they are all that matters. They are not.

She wants some time. Let her have it. Don't smother her.

There's no magic button. If she wants time, she deserves time. And in the meantime you pull yourself together.

You talked about marriage. Fine. Many people do. Its how you begin to grow and mature and "role play" into being an adult.

Here's the thing. No relationship will save you.

For most people, relationships come and go when you are young. And don't tell me you are perfect for each other or that you are different. You MAY be perfect for each other... for a time... but times change. And most everybody here has has a love of their life when young, lost a love of their life, and then moved on and found another love of their life in somebody else.

So... it sucks when a relationship might be over. It hurts like hell. Then it hurts less. And then one day you've moved on. Its just the way the world spins, man.

So... give her the space to figure it out. Last thing you need is to pressure her into something she may not want, and then have to deal with it later after more time is wasted.

Best thing you can do is not burn bridges, but not be a butler or a doormat for her either.

[Heartbroken_in_luv]

Yea I guess I should give her time.. but just after I posted this message she gave me a message saying all the playing she did on me was fake. She said she only said all that to make me hate her so I would leave her and find someone better. I am really confused because first she said she played on me for over a year and now she says it was a lie.. why is this girl playing with my heart like this?

[kp2171]

Drop her like lead.

I'm guessing she's lying. Who cares? She's either lying or a coward.

Drama. Drama. Drama.

Don't spend another minute on her.

I know... I know... its not that easy.

At least you know that she's not worth wasting your energy on... I mean it is easier when you know the person you thought you cared for isn't really that nice after all.

Sucks to be you right now. I have been there too.

The sooner you move on, the sooner you'll be gone from the train wreck.

[Nosnosna]

In the end, it doesn't matter which part is true and which part is the lie.

Either she was cheating and is now lying about it (even after confessing), or she was and is being manipulative. Neither of those is a good thing.

Call her bluff and do what she says she wanted: Leave her and find somebody better. Nobody deserves to be treated like crap by a manipulative hussy. No break, no time apart, just a plain break up. It's important to note that this isn't a trick to get her back, or a way to get revenge... this is you doing what's best for you. Yeah, it'll be awkward in classes, but a little bit of awkwardness sure beats a lot of being lied to.

[Heartbroken_in_luv]

Hmm I guess she might be lying.. she said her little baby sister is the most sacred thing to her and she swore on her little sister that she lied about cheating on me and it was just to make me hate her so I would get on with my life and leave her.. she even called herself a.. its going to be hard because I really wanted to go prom with her and everything seeing its my last year of school.. its heartbreak at the wrong time

[Nosnosna]

There's never a right time for heartbreak :)

You should make the most of your time. You know (in your mind, at least) that she's bad for you and you're going to be miserable with her because of this. And you know you may be miserable if you break up. I'd take maybe miserable over definitely miserable myself.

[incognito]

From what you say it seems to be an unhealthy relationship for the both of you.
Get out of the relationship and learn from it.

[talaniman]

Give her what she wants and leave her alone. Who needs this kind of drama?

[Heartbroken_in_luv]

Hmm yea I'm going to get out of this relationship.. but I need ways to get over her.. especially if she's in my every class at school and since I been with this girl I've lost many of my friends at school because I hang around with this girl 2 much.. I need something to get my mind of her but I don't know what the perfect solution would be

[Lowtax4eva]

Don't even worry about it, dump her, she has no respect for you. Move on to someone better!