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I broke up my long term 6 year relationship with my boyfriend 9 months ago because of circumstances that were neither of our faults. I started a rebound relationship soon after, but I didn't tell my ex about this until 4 months later. In this time we were meeting up to discuss complications about the house we were renovating together as we both still had time and money invested in it. My ex was full of hope we would get back together. When I told my ex about the rebound he tried for a month to get me to finish with the rebound. It took me a month but I managed to do it because he said we could try again if I did. Im not sure if he thought that I would do it, but I did. Then my best friend died and I wasn't in the right frame of mind to be thinking about retrying again because I was grieving my loss. My ex new I wasn't seeing my rebound anymore. Me and my ex were spending time together, but it was more about him supporting me through my loss because it wasn't the right time to try again. I thought he would have waited but 2 months after my friend died he sent me a text saying he was seeing someone else. He had just started seeing her. He didn't think I wanted to try again with him so he stopped caring. He also told me that if it wasn't for her he would have tried again with me. He said he went through a lot of pain with me and he is confused and I hurt him. He said he still goes over why we split up and he has admitted that he still loves me but he empathizes the fact that he has moved on. Ive asked him if there is a chance for us in the future and he says he doesn't no. We still own joint property so there are a lot of issues to sort out. He says he isn't happy because he is in debt over our house. He has feelings of regret over why we split up. He knows it wasn't either of our fault. He has been going out with her for 5 weeks now, but it was only 2 months before that he was pleading with me to try again. Which I did agree to but then he moved on anyway. He only contacts me now to talk about our joint property. He has rubbed my nose in it by boasting about what he is up to. He says he has moved on, I am confused as to whether he has, I can't move on, I still love him deeply. We both admit that if it wasn't for this house we would still be together. We both agree that we suit each other so well. Our personalitys worked so well together. I am going no contact because it hurts me to see him. He wants to be friends still, but understands why I cant. We haven't ended on bad terms.