[broken_21]

Me boyfriend and I had been dating for 10 months, and it was different from any relationship I had ever had. We talked about marriage and I felt that he was 'The One'.

We had our fair share of problems though. It was a long distance relationship and being apart for weeks at a time was incredibly difficult. Yet we managed for 10 months. About the time our major problems started his parents were going through a divorce. It was really hard on him. He started to not believe in love anymore and said that he didn't want to get married or have kids anymore.

He ended up breaking up with me over a text after a short break to clear his head. That same night we ended up getting back together, as he apologized for everything. Not long after that he was ending it again, this time he said that it was for good. Even though we were no longer together we would still text and I missed him like crazy. We talked almost everyday. We finally talked in person and I gave him back a necklace he gave me. He said that he wasn't ready for it to be over and that he still loved me. I thought that he was done.

A week later I was set up on a blind date. I didn't want to go, but I was also tired of sitting at home alone. So I went. Me and the guy ended up hitting it off and we started talking. I felt good about it because it got my mind off my ex. A few days late the ex started talking to me and telling me that he wanted to be back together. Im not sure if it's a good thing since we have been through so much before. I am still desperately in love with him and while the new guy is great, there just isn't that 'spark'. I don't know what I should do. Im thinking that I need to stear clear of the ex for awhile and clear my head and reevaluate the situation. Some words of encouragement and/or advice would be greatly appreciated. Im super confused.

[talaniman]

Im thinking that I need to stear clear of the ex for awhile and clear my head and reevaluate the situation.

I fully agree with you. 10 months and mostly long distance? You are missing all the fun. Date others and get out and meet people. You don't need a spark to make friends or have good clean adult fun. Being with a part time confused guy who dumps you when he feels like it ain't no fun, and he makes his confusion yours.

That ain't fair. So enjoy your youth, and the real one will appear. Ignore him, and his issues.

[Star83]

Because he went through the trauma of seeing his parents getting divorced, I think you should give him another chance but SLOWLY get back into the relationship, don't immediately become intimate with him again.

Slowly because both of you need to be sure of what you want and also so you can rebuild your relationship in a healthy way.

However, you should also enjoy your own life. If things don't turn out well with him then at least you'll still have a life of your own. Sorry for all the extra posts, I just keep thinking of more to say after I post lol.