[TomooseBailey]

Hey guys! I’m in a situation here that I need opinions/advice with. I’m 17 years old (young for all this I know but it’s a mature relationship) and my girlfriend says she needs space, she’s broken up with me because her 'emotions are everywhere' and she 'doesn’t know what she wants' in her words. We were together only 1.5 years but been through everything together, meals, days out, holiday, theme parks.

Anyway, back to the point. She says she wants time to sort her head out because she feels she’s 'falling out of love' with me and needs time to think about what she wants. She’s told me I don’t have to wait and that I’m more than welcome to move on. She admits she still deeply loves me and still gets jealous of the slightest of things (even girls talking to me)! She’s lied to me dramatically in the past, not cheating but thoroughly lying until proved wrong in numerous situations. I’ve NOT ONCE lied to her so there shouldn’t be trust issues. I buy her clothes, items, jewelry ALL the time, literally every penny goes on her just to see a smile, so I can’t be a bad boyfriend right? I treat her right, never shout at her. I would just like to know, what would you say I do?

I’ve told her I love her and can’t lose her numerous times as it’s true and don’t want to let her go I’m just stuck in the middle of the whole situation! She says ''you can move on but I don’t want you to, but it’s not fair in keeping you waiting'' I accept and don’t know what to do, DO I WAIT? Or do I move on and find somebody else? Just general advice on past experience of any kind would be of favor, just want to know where I stand in the situation, this has happened before but eventually pulled through, and this is the second time. Basically do I give up? Thanks guys: D

[Jimmy78]

Okay first off go no contact, second stay no contact no matter what, and third find someone else to be with period. Do you really want to be with someone who doesn't know what they want, I'm pretty sure you know what you want and its her but she is unsure about you so help her out by walking away. Life is to short for games and if she comes back when the grass isn't greener on the other side, leave her alone.

[talaniman]

EASY, give her what she asked for, her freedom, and don't wait. And save all that loot you have been blowing on her for some one that appreciates you.

You can't buy love, and smiling faces tell lies.

[durpstick]

Its over bro, it will hurt, but you will be fine

[Nick Pettr]

I won't want to work so hard to get over him, then have a rush of emotions come back! Yeah I can see that's true about him being a part of me- because the 3years was my longest relationship and he was my world, and if you have any friends that associate with him, tell them they need to not bring him up around you at all, if they can't do that you might need to distance yourself from them as well.

[TomooseBailey]

Thanks guys I'm going to stay out of contact until she messages me or something, At least that way I know I'm not invading her space, Once again, Thanks a lot. :D Tom.

[mmresd]

For a relationship where one of the members "doesn't know what she wants" and "emotions are everywhere" I will have to respectfully disagree at this relationship being mature at all, in fact those are signs of a HUGE amount of immaturity. Not only does she not know what she wants, but she is jealous to the point that you can't talk to another female... that is not only immature but shows that she has self esteem and confidence issues, along with her not really being able to trust you (remember that without trust, there is no relationship). On top of everything she has told you that she doesn't want to be tied down and she wants to go out and have fun.

Here is what I would do. Break up with her, respect her wishes, go no contact, and start moving on, let time do its job. If she wants to get back, she will let you know (trust me), but DO NOT wait for her, you continue living your life, concentrate on your school, work, health, friends, and family. If she never comes back, then it is actually your win, and you will have your life balanced at that point (whenever you are completely over her) to start a happy, healthy relationship with someone else, someone BETTER!!