[Teaching]

Feelings should come from within...

Remember you are special, let him come to you.

[tinsign]

I learned years ago that you can't make someone want you.Maybe in time the man will feel different towards you but for now I would not put all my hopes and dreams on hold for him. Make sure you continue on with your life and don't hatch that phone either. Don't chase him as if you are desperate it makes you look to needy and will turn him off fast. Take my advice on this one.

[J_9]

I know from fact and experience you can't make someone do something that they don't want to do.

Now, if you do make him marry you, do you think he would be happy? Do you think this marriage would work?

You make a sandwich, but you don't make someone marry you.

[ScottGem]

You need an attitude adjustment. Do you really want a mate that you had to "make" marry you? What you want is someone who cares about YOU, who enjoys being with you, sharing your interests and life. That will result in someone wanting to marry you.

[shrewd26f]

Thanks, SCOTT, TINSIGN, TEACHING and others :) Thanks for enligtening me:) Best thing to do for now is just to forget about it.

[chuff]

I see this with a lot of women, and actually some men as well. As a kid they set up a certain age when they would be married by or they find a guy (or girl) and start thinking long term before the other person does. The woman usually fantaizes about how great marriage will be. But the reality is if you have to force someone into something then they aren't going to be happy and the truth is the marriage isn't going to last.

[rol]

How long have you both been together? What is your desperation to get married?

[shrewd26f]

How long have you both been together? what is ur desperation to get married?

Hello, ROL!
We're together for 2 years now. Well, I just want to start a family of my own and I'm not getting any younger. Most of my friends are married already with children and I feel the pressure. Not only because I'm pressured but I really want to have kids already. I want to experience being a mom and a wife. I think, a husband and children would complete me.

[JoeCanada76]

Yes, it does sound pathetic. As everybody else already said you can not make somebody marry you. If it is so much trouble. You want a commitement and he does not. Then I think maybe it is actually time to end the relationship. It is sad, but you are not getting want you want out of the relationship he is not giving you a commitment. Time to move on. If you want kids and to be a wife, then maybe you should be patient enough to actually find somebody that wants the same things.

Joe

[shrewd26f]

Hi Joe!
Thanks to your good advice. . But, I just can't end it up with him. He is a good man. Responsible, loyal I may say, he cares a lot about me. And I love him. I feel he loves me too. It's just that, he can't disclose his plans for us yet because he is still unprepared. Though sometimes, he like talking about our future together like husband and wife. . Oh, I don't know. Come what may. I think I just let God do the works. Thanks :)

[JoeCanada76]

It should not be just about what he wants or his plans for you. As a couple do you not think that plans should be made together as a team. That is what I am trying to get at here.

Yes, it is best left in Gods hands. Ask him and he will answer, one way or another.

Best of luck and I do hope and pray that your feelings and thoughts of becoming a wife and mother come true one day. No matter who it is with. As long as they treat you right.

Joe

[AKaeTrue]

Sweetie, don't you want someone who appreciates YOUR style...
You will never be 100% happy with this man if he's no into you.
I don't mean to sound harsh, but respect yourself by finding a relationship with a man who truly appreciates everything about you... You'll be much happier...

[shrewd26f]

Hi, AkaEtrue!
Thanks! You are absolutely right. :)